Life’s Too Short To Waste Time On Liars, Players & Other Crappy Guys

You’re looking for real and lasting love with a great guy, but somehow you keep ending up in crappy half-relationships with guys who aren’t good enough for you in any way. WTF? Life’s too short to waste on dudes who don’t know how to treat you like the queen you are and you’re way better off alone than with one of them anyday.

  1. You don’t need a man that badly. You’ve survived without one before and you’ll do it again. The problem with feelings is that they cloud our judgment and mess with our better reasoning. You made the mistake of developing affection for someone who doesn’t deserve it. Your bad. Cut the cord — you’ll be better off.
  2. It’s nice to get laid, but… Yeah, one of the worst things about being single is not getting any action. Still, there are ways if you try. You can set up an FWB situation or have a couple one-night stands if you’re down with that sort of thing. Even if you aren’t, is all this BS really worth a little nookie?
  3. You’re too good for this crap! Come on. Somewhere deep down, you still know better. No matter how much you think you care about him, you could have so much more. You just have to have the patience to wait and a discerning eye to see when the right one comes along.
  4. You are a busy woman. There’s so much going on in your life. Why waste time with a jerk who doesn’t deserve it? You’ve been through it all before. You made mistakes when you were younger with all the wrong guys. Did you learn from them or are you still wading through the BS that is dating today? Abstain and take a breath. Focus on everything else you have on your plate.
  5. Time is your most valuable resource. It’s not to be frittered away. With all that you have to accomplish and the wonderful people in your life who want the joy of your company, you can’t afford to waste precious minutes dealing with a player. Don’t do it. There are too many awesome experiences to be had. You can’t be bothered with their trivial nonsense.
  6. You don’t need more stress in your life. Your man should bring you joy, not sadness. Consider if you want someone who adds to your daily load instead of lightening it. If you do, then you’re a masochist and you have bigger problems. Pick the guy who will make your day better, not the loser who puts you in a bad mood every time you deal with him.
  7. A man should make everything better, not worse. Maybe this is idealistic, but you should want the best man you can find. You need a partner who makes you laugh, who holds you when you cry, and who does his damnedest to improve every moment of your life. Don’t waste your energy on guys who are constantly making you feel bad about yourself.
  8. Don’t let your hormones get in the way of your brain. Yes, girls do stupid crap in the name of great sex. It’s not just men who let their genitals do the thinking — women are guilty too! You’re super attracted to him and your chemistry is off-the-charts, so you forgive all the crap you know you shouldn’t. Don’t do it. No sex is worth subjecting yourself to emotional duress.
  9. Never let anyone treat you like crap. This should be obvious, yet so many women find themselves in situations with the worst men. Whether you ignored the warning signs and went ahead anyway or he changed on you out of nowhere – it’s time to say goodbye. Repeat to yourself: you are too good to waste time with crappy men. Keep repeating it until you believe it.
  10. Really, the title says it all. It’s pretty basic. Life is short. Time is precious. There is so much to see and do and learn and love. There are so many people you should spend time loving and appreciating. Liars, players, and crappy guys are not on any of these lists! Purge them from your life and you will be immediately happier. It’s a pretty safe guarantee. Screw the bad boys — you’re better off loving yourself until someone worthwhile comes along.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at