What It’s Like To Actually Date A Good Guy For A Change

What It’s Like To Actually Date A Good Guy For A Change ©iStock/oneinchpunch

You shouldn’t settle for dating a man who doesn’t appreciate you. There are plenty of good guys out there, but you have to search for them. If you’re lucky enough to find one, then you’ll never go back to dating a tool again. Here’s what it’s like to actually date a good guy for a change:

  1. It’s a breath of fresh air. You had no idea that men still held open doors for women and said, “I love you” first. It’s hard to get used to, which is why your mind is blown whenever he gives you a kiss on the forehead or goes down on you without expecting anything in return.
  2. You realize how horrible your exes were. You thought you had it good in the past, just because your ex remembered your anniversary. But now that you’re with a genuinely good guy, you realize that every other boyfriend was scum compared to him.
  3. You can’t relate to your friends’ relationship problems. Your friends are always complaining about how their boyfriends lie and cheat, but you don’t have anything nasty to say about your own boyfriend. You don’t want to sound like you’re bragging, but you just can’t relate to their issues.
  4. You see yourself differently. A good guy won’t let you think poorly of yourself. That means you won’t waste time criticizing your own appearance, because you’ll start to see yourself through his eyes—and he thinks you’re absolutely beautiful.
  5. It makes you a better person. You didn’t care about cursing out your cheating exes, but now that you’re with a good guy, you want to be a good girlfriend. You’ll try your hardest to be everything he wants you to be, because he’s already everything you want.
  6. Every day is a good day. You’re happy even on the days you don’t get to see him, because you’re comforted by the fact that he’s in your life. He makes everything feel a little bit brighter.
  7. You’ll feel wanted. When you date a good guy, you won’t have to worry about him using you for sex, because it’ll be clear that your relationship is so much more than that. Of course, you won’t have to worry about him finding you unattractive either, because he’ll compliment you all the time.
  8. Your fights aren’t heartbreaking. You still have fights, but they never end in nasty words or a breakup. You’re able to talk to each other like adults and come to a compromise, because you both value your relationship.
  9. 9. You wonder what he’s hiding. Occasionally, you’ll wonder if what you have is too good to be true. You’ve never met another guy as amazing as your boyfriend, which is what makes you wonder if he’s hiding something horrible.
  10. Your standards permanently raise. Even if you two don’t end up together, your standards will forever be higher. Now that you know what it’s like to date a good guy, you’re never going to settle for less than you deserve again.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.