What It’s Like To Find A Guy Who Doesn’t Actually Play Games

What It’s Like To Find A Guy Who Doesn’t Actually Play Games ©iStock/gilaxia

You don’t have to settle for a guy who plays hard to get and makes you wait five hours for a text back. That’s no way to live. Here’s what it’s like to find a guy who doesn’t actually play games:

  1. You don’t have to guess what he’s feeling. He says what he means. You don’t have to wonder what he’s thinking at any given moment, because he won’t hesitate to speak his mind. If he likes you, then he’ll actually tell you and if he’s not interested in you, he’ll tell you that, too.
  2. You’ll have fewer freakouts. Your anxiety won’t get the best of you because he won’t take hours to text you back. He’ll reply to your message as soon as he has the time because he actually wants to talk to you. He won’t make you wait just for the hell of it.
  3. He’s not ashamed of loving someone. If he likes you, he’ll ask you out. If he loves you, he’ll say those three little words. Unlike most men, he’s not scared to embrace his feelings for you.
  4. You won’t have to keep your guard up. When you’re dealing with plaeyrs, you have to be careful, or else your heart will get shattered into a million pieces. But once you realize the man you’re dating doesn’t actually play games, you won’t second guess everything he says. It’ll be easy for you to trust him.
  5. You won’t be scared to tell him how you feel. He’s always honest with you, so you won’t feel weird about being honest with him. You’ll feel comfortable telling him how much you like him or asking him to meet your parents. It’ll be easy for you to talk to him about the things you struggled to mention to your exes.
  6. Your confidence won’t waver. He won’t give you backhanded compliments and he won’t flirt with other girls to make you jealous. You’ll be getting his full attention. If he agrees to commit himself to you, then he won’t go back on that promise.
  7. You’ll always know where you stand. He won’t mind giving your relationship a label. He’ll call you his girlfriend if he loves you and he’ll call you his hookup buddy if he’s only attracted to your body. He won’t make you guess how you fit into his life.
  8. You won’t have to play games, either. When the man you like plays games with you, you’re forced to join in if you want to date him. Of course, if you’re lucky enough to find a guy who doesn’t play around, then you won’t have to play, either. You can leave that lackluster lifestyle behind.
  9. You’ll realize how easy love can be. There are so many dating rules you’ve been told to follow, which is why it’s so hard to believe there are men out there who will actually respond well to honesty. You can just tell him how you’re feeling and he’ll return the favor. It’s so simple.
  10. You won’t doubt yourself. Even if he ends up dumping you, it won’t be all that bad, because he’ll continue to be honest with you. He won’t ghost you and force you to wonder what the hell you did wrong. He’ll tell you why he’s leaving, which means you’ll get the closure you need.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.