We’ve been lied to, cheated on, taken for granted and treated like crap. We’ve had our hearts broken and been left feeling unappreciated and unwanted. Because of that, it only makes sense that we’re going to have some baggage, so excuse us if we’re a little hesitant to believe that you can (and will) love us the way we’ve never been loved before. Want to make sure you treat us right? Make sure you do the following:
- Tell us how you feel. Don’t hold back. When you want to tell us that we’re beautiful, go into detail about the way our smile sparkles or how our lips taste. And when you want to tell us that you love us, don’t be afraid to list out all the reasons why. We’ll be more than glad to hear it.
- Give us a break. If you catch us snooping through your phone or hear us complaining about your female friends, don’t be too hard on us. We’ve been hurt too many times before. We’re just being careful, so that we don’t end up getting screwed over again.
- Make the sex feel meaningful. Look us in the eyes and whisper in our ear. Make us feel beautiful. Don’t let us think of ourselves a sex object ever again.
- Don’t act like you’re something special. You’re the first one to love us the right way, but that doesn’t mean you’re the greatest thing on the face of the planet. It just means that our exes were losers. So don’t get a big head over how happy we get when you do basic things like text us back and kiss our forehead.
- Redefine our view on relationships. Don’t take advantage of us, because we think it’s normal for relationships to consist of constant lies and fights. Instead, show us how wrong we are about it all. Prove that you’re different.
- Stop us from being so hard on ourselves. We’re occasionally going to make little comments about our personalities and our looks. They might seem like innocent attempts at self-deprecating humor, but it’s more than that. Help us see ourselves like you see us, because we spend too much time focusing on our flaws.
- Give us some time to adjust. Don’t rush us into marriage or into moving in together. We need some time to get to know the real you. We’ve been screwed over by men we’ve loved before, so we’ll want to trust you 100% before making any big moves.
- Treat us with respect, even when you’re pissed. Don’t tell us we’re beautiful on your good days and go off about what ugly whores we are on your bad days. You should always treat us with respect, even when you don’t want to be in the same room as us.
- Don’t place the blame on us. Don’t let us say “sorry” over things we shouldn’t be apologizing over. Our exes might’ve made her feel like we were always the one in the wrong, but you shouldn’t. Remind us that our relationship is a two-way street.
- Love us as deeply as we love you. We’re used to being the one who loves more. That’s why you need to show us that you’re on the same page and that you love us just as much, so we know we’re not alone in this.
