There’s almost no feeling worse than learning that your partner cheated on you. Trust me, I’ve been there, much like a lot of you. Unfortunately, there’s only so much you can do to control the actions of another person. However, there are some things you can do to make sure a guy is less inclined to be unfaithful. Of course, nothing is 100% guaranteed, but if you have a fear of your partner cheating on you, here are some things you can try.
- Be willing to experiment in bed. It’s great for couples to have sex regularly, but sex shouldn’t be a routine. That can start to make things dull, which can be bad for a relationship. If your sex life starts to get dull, a guy might be more inclined to cheat because he’s grown tired of the routine. It’s healthy for couples to try new things, especially in the bedroom. Obviously, you don’t have to do anything if it makes you uncomfortable. If you’re open-minded and willing to experiment in bed, a guy will be satisfied trying new things rather than trying a new partner.
- Stay on his mind. One key to a happy and monogamous relationship is making sure you two are always thinking about each other and considering each other’s feelings. You have to always be looking for ways to remind your partner that you care about him. In fairness, he should be doing the same for you. Anyway, this can be a subtle but helpful way of reminding him that it will hurt you if he betrays your trust and cheats. If that thought is always in the back of someone’s mind, they’re not going to cheat on you unless they’re an absolute jerk.
- Don’t be overly critical. Not to sound too whiny, but most men don’t respond well when their partner is overly critical of them. The same is true of someone who nags or complains a lot. Of course, I’m sure the same is true for you ladies as well. For men, having a partner who is too critical can hurt our ego and self-esteem. It’s also more likely to make our eyes wander in search of someone who isn’t going to be critical of us or complain all the time. When our eyes start to wander, it’s possible that we’ll start to develop feelings for someone else. That can lead to either breaking up with you or cheating on you.
- Spend time apart. For most couples, a little time apart every now and then can be good. A lot of guys tend to feel suffocated at times in a serious relationship. Sometimes it reaches a point where they have an affair just to experience a little freedom and not feel suffocated. It sounds weird, but spending some time apart can help prevent this type of cheating. Both people need to be able to spend time with their friends and pursue other hobbies or interests outside the relationship. Often, when you spend time apart, he’ll miss you rather than try to get away from you and move toward someone else.
- Appreciate him. More than almost anything else, guys want to feel like their partner appreciates them. Most of us have big egos, but they are fragile egos. We need reminders that you like us and appreciate us for who we are. When a guy doesn’t feel that, he becomes subconsciously open to other options in hopes of finding someone else who appreciates him. If he ends up finding someone else who he thinks appreciates him, he’ll be prone to cheating on you.
- Show affection. Unfortunately, words aren’t always enough. A lot of guys require physical attention to show that you like and appreciate them. That doesn’t mean you have to constantly have sex with them, but holding hands, shoulder rubs, and occasionally letting him be the little spoon can reinforce the thought that the relationship has everything he needs.
- Be there for him. It sounds simple, but it’s so important. A lot of this boils down to trust. If a guy has a bad day or is going through a hard time, he needs to know that you’ll be there for him. You’d want him to the same for you, right? When a guy starts to feel that he can’t rely on you or trust you, he’ll subconsciously start to look for someone who will be there for him. This is one of the most common formulas for an affair.
- Initiate sex sometimes. To be fair, cheating isn’t always about sex, but sometimes it is. If you don’t initiate sex at least sometimes, some men will take it as a sign that you’re not attracted to them. That may not be fair, but it’s how a lot of men think. If he doesn’t think you desire him, he’ll be more likely to cheat. If he ends up meeting someone who makes it clear she desires him, he may not be able to help himself. However, if you ladies are willing to initiate sex sometimes, it’ll help prevent your partner from straying.
