It can be tough to realize that the guy you’re into doesn’t feel the same way, but it’s a totally necessary truth to accept. The only way to move on is to know your worth and believe you can get through this. Here’s what you should remember: if he doesn’t want to be with you, that’s his problem.
- You’re girlfriend material. You could meet someone tomorrow and be the best girlfriend ever. You’ve got your life together and you’ve found success and happiness. This guy? Definitely not boyfriend material. Not even close. And he knows that too, or he wouldn’t have bailed the second that things got real.
- You’re your own person. You don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just so a guy will like you. You don’t want to be anyone but yourself, and that’s what makes you so special. You should never lose that faith in yourself, no matter how tough it can seem to find someone that you care about and who feels the same way in return.
- You’re done with the games. You’ve long since said goodbye to the texting power struggles and the battle to see who can show the least amount of emotion and effort. If this guy is still playing games and doesn’t want to settle down with you, that’s his issue. It’s not yours. You should be proud of how you can rise above all the dating BS and stand your own ground.
- You’re honest. You would never say anything less than the exact truth. You can tell a guy how you feel, even if you’re only going to get rejected, and that’s a pretty cool thing. Not a lot of people can say the same. Keep living your honest, authentic life and don’t change that for anyone.
- You’re mature. Unfortunately, not every guy you’re going to meet is going to be as mature as you, and that’s a pretty big understatement. Sometimes you’re going to really like a guy but he just won’t be emotionally mature enough to seriously date you. It sucks but it’s not the end of the world.
- You’re everything he’s not. If you’re ready for an actual relationship, then sometimes the guys that you date just won’t be. They won’t be at that place in their life and they won’t see the value in sharing their life with someone special. That’s honestly their problem, and it has nothing to do with you. Don’t take it personally. Just remember that everything you are and have is the opposite of this guy, so why would you even want to be with him?
- You don’t have time to waste. You’re definitely not old, but you’re not exactly getting any younger at the same time. You don’t have time to waste on losers who can’t commit to you or even admit how they feel.
- You’re free now. You can meet as many guys as you want to, and you’re free to choose who you want to spend your time with. You don’t have to be dragged down by this guy who doesn’t think he has a place for you in his life.
- He doesn’t deserve you. If he doesn’t want to be with you, there’s honestly something up, because you are an amazing person with so many awesome qualities. Who wouldn’t want to be with a strong, independent woman who can do anything? Oh right, immature guys who are totally threatened. Same old story, different day.
- He’s not good enough for you. You’re not a conceited snob for thinking that a guy who doesn’t want to commit to you isn’t worthy. You’re just being honest. Besides, you should never be anything less than totally self-assured and confident, because being any other way isn’t going to get you anywhere good.
- You don’t need him. He’s not the last guy on the planet. He’s not even the last guy in your city (or on the dating apps you hate but still use). So why do you need him? Exactly. You don’t.
- Your future is bright. Your future looks so good, whether or not you realize it. You should always remember that, no matter how frustrating dating gets. You’re on the right path and you’re doing everything that you should be to get where you want to go. Don’t let anyone else make you feel otherwise. If you stay the course, you’re going to find someone amazing, and you’ll be so grateful for all the guys who let go of you.
