There are relationships you get into with forever in mind, and there are those you don’t even expect to last until next season. Sure, you might be with this person because you see real potential — but do they feel the same or are they just passing the time until a better relationship comes along? If you notice these 10 signs, it’s probably the latter.
1. They don’t make the effort to get in touch.
They don’t have to call or text you asking how life’s treating you every waking hour and you certainly don’t need to spend 24/7 together. However, if you don’t see them making an effort to spend their time with you, it may mean that their heart isn’t in it at all. You need to figure it out sooner rather than later so save yourself the heartbreak.
2. They only get in touch when they need something.
If you go days without hearing from them, only to suddenly get 25 texts a day out of nowhere, there’s a problem. When this happens, you know it’s because they want or need something from you, not because they’re missing you and just want to say hello.
3. They go MIA when they feel like it.
They go off the grid without even giving you a heads-up. Then magically reappear days later with no explanations and assume that everything is fine. If you welcome them back with open arms, don’t expect that they’ll treat you better next time. Either thye’ll get tired because they see no challenge in you or you’ll get tired of waiting for them to change their ways. The bottom line is you’re wasting each other’s time in a relationship that’s obviously not going anywhere.
4. There’s that nagging feeling inside of you that tells you to leave.
Gut feelings aren’t accurate 100% of the time, but if the voice within keeps on whispering, open your eyes. There might be things you don’t see, which can be good enough reasons to leave the relationship and chase your own version of “forever” with someone else.
5. They’re still seeing other people.
If they’re still friendly with their exes or quick to get friendly with new people even if they know this makes you feel uncomfortable, it means one of two things: they don’t care about how you feel or they’re keeping you as a backup. If you’re turning a blind eye on this to see if they’ll change, you’re wasting time.
6. They take you for granted.
The longer you spend time as a couple, the more respect you should have for each other. Getting more comfortable with you isn’t a reason for them to take you for granted (or vice versa). If they have been neglecting their partner duties, you should sit down and have a serious talk, or you can keep on wasting your time on a person who obviously doesn’t deserve you.
7. There’s a reluctance to commit on both sides.
If you’ve been together for a long time and aren’t even considering taking your relationship to the next level and getting engaged or even moving in together, you should both stop and evaluate where you stand. Finding the reason behind how you feel is important because if you’re not really sure about each other, you’re wasting precious time (which you could be spending with the one who’s really for you).
8. They don’t make you a priority.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with chasing your individual dreams, but if the relationship is suffering because of it, they are obviously not as invested in the relationship as you are. You’re not ready for your own “happily ever after” so why waste it by staying in a “passing the time” relationship, right?
9. When you try to picture a future together, you can’t.
You try to imagine what it would be like a year or two in the future and whenever you do, they’re never there. You can’t quite put your finger on why, but inserting them into your vision of the future just never seems to feel right.
10. There’s a lack of intimacy.
Intimacy goes beyond physical relationships. It’s about sharing, understanding, and connecting on a deeper level. If they’re avoiding getting close to you in any way, they’re likely just passing the time until something else better comes along.
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