Say what you want about our century, but we have plenty that our ancestors didn’t have. Pretty much everyone has a cell phone, Internet access, and multiple televisions. Of course, we’re lacking decent men. That’s why these old school boyfriend traits that need to make a comeback:
- Well dressed. Your boyfriend can wear what he wants when you’re hanging out at his house. But when you go out on an actual date, he should dress up, instead of wearing basketball shorts and a wife beater.
- Chivalrous. Imagine a man actually opening up doors for you and pulling out your chair? It would beat listening to him curse and watching him use his sleeve as a napkin.
- Organized. Don’t you hate when a guy asks you out, but has no idea what you two should do during the actual date? Well, an old school boyfriend would make plans ahead of time, so that you weren’t bored for even a second.
- Respectful. Date a man who calls your dad “sir” and helps your mother with the dishes. Of course, he should treat you with as much respect as he treats your parents and the waitstaff at Olive Garden.
- Dedicated. Don’t waste your time with a guy who wants to Netflix and chill, but won’t sit still and talk to you about your feelings. You need someone who sees you as more than a booty call.
- Hard working. He doesn’t have to be rich. He just has to have a job that he’s willing to work hard at, so that he can help you pay the rent (not that you need his help).
- Sincere. When he nods his head, he should actually be listening to you. When he tells you about his day, he shouldn’t leave out anything important.
- Mature. You don’t need someone who laughs at fart jokes. There’s nothing wrong with being a kid at heart, but he shouldn’t act more like your child than your boyfriend.
- Protective. If someone poses a threat to his family, then he should take action. He should be willing to do whatever it takes to keep you safe, physically and emotionally.
- Responsible. You should be able to trust him to drive you home after a few drinks. You shouldn’t have to worry that he’ll end up drinking more than you and puking in the Uber car he calls.
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