I’ve Always Put Other People’s Happiness Before My Own, But Not Anymore

I’ve been a people pleaser pretty much all my life. I’ve always tried to make sure everyone else is happy even when I wasn’t, but I’ve finally realized I’m tired of being so selfless and I’m not doing it anymore. It’s finally time to put my own happiness first, and I’m not sorry about it.

  1. I Can’t Please Everyone. I’ve heard that phrase a lot over the years but I only recently started to believe it. I used to strive to make sure everyone around me was happy and taken care of, but it always felt impossible — and I finally realize that’s because it is. It’s not like everyone around me is constantly trying their best to make ME happy all the time either. It’s time for me to rake responsibility for my own life and happiness.
  2. I Don’t Need Anyone’s Approval. I am going to live my life the way I want and do what I want, when I want to do it. If anyone has a problem with that, too bad — they obviously don’t care about my mental and emotional well-being. I’m done listening to everyone else’s opinions about how to live my life or what will make me happy. I’m the only one who knows the answer to that.
  3. People Are Ultimately Going To Think What They Want. I can’t change how people see me or their perception of me. If someone thinks my goals and my dreams are stupid, why should I try to convince them otherwise? No matter what I say people will still think what they want, good or bad. I’m the only one living my life, so I’m cool with my choices.
  4. I Simply Don’t Have The Time To Care. I have more important things to do than make sure everyone else is happy around me. I have to focus on myself and accomplish the things I want to accomplish. I’m not cold-hearted by any means and I’m always happy to help others, but at some point, you have to decide when to put yourself first and, that’s exactly what I’m doing.
  5. I’ve been too distracted from my own dreams and ambitions for too long. I’ve given up on my dreams more than once for the sake of making someone else happy. That will never happen again. This time it’s my turn to be happy. If someone I’m dating can’t get on board with that, they need to GTFO because I’m focused and know exactly what I want out of life.
  6. I’ve Wasted Too Much Time On People who didn’t stick around. I’ve bent over backward and practically killed myself in trying to please others, whether it was friends, family, or a boyfriend — and for what? Half of those people aren’t even in my life today. I don’t want to waste any more time trying to please people who aren’t even going to stick around for the long haul.
  7. It’s My Time To Shine. I’ve watched friends rise to the top, accomplish their dreams, and marry the loves of their lives, and while I’m so proud of them and will forever support them, I want to grow as well. They have had their moments and now this is my moment. It’s my time to prove what I can do.
  8. I’m The One In Control Of My Life. Only I can decide what happens with my life at the end of the day. I need to take the steering wheel and stop trying to please everyone else and make myself happy. I’m the only one who has to deal with the consequences of my decision, so I want to build a life I feel good about. Who wouldn’t?
  9. The people who really matter will support me. Friends and boyfriends came and went, so why did I spend so much time trying to please everyone else when I wasn’t happy? I know the friends that will stick by me ’til the end and the ones that won’t. The friends that I know will be there won’t get mad at me for being a little selfish sometimes and doing what makes me happy. In fact, they’ll encourage it.
  10. Life Is Too Short. This is my only life — I don’t believe that we get more than one, so I’m going to live this life to the fullest and experience every last bit of it. I’m going to travel where I want to travel, love who I want to love, and live this life for me and not for anyone else.
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I'm just your typical 27 year old girl, trying to navigate through this crazy life of boys and friends. Traveling and exploring new places is my drug.