Your Relationship Status and 8 Other Things that Definitely Don’t Define Your Self-Worth

It can be so hard to maintain your confidence and self-worth in a world where it feels like everyone is constantly trying to one-up each other. With the constant influx of social media and societal comparisons, it’s easy to base your feelings about yourself on things that the rest of the world tends to judge you by. Here are a few things that definitely do not define your self-worth and that never will no matter what anyone else says.

  1. What you do for a living A lot of people make it seem like your job is your entire identity and truthfully, it’s ideal if you can find a career that you love and aligns perfectly with your passions. However, the reality for most people is that work is work and a job and is a job. It doesn’t define you. If your current job isn’t where you plan on being forever, you don’t have the position you want yet, or aren’t making the kind of money you hope to someday, who cares? You’ll get where you want to be and in the meantime, take pleasure in the areas of your life that are how you want them to be now.
  2. Where you live Social media can be a total trap for insecurity when you see celebrities, influencers, or even your friends taking pictures inside and in front of their perfect-looking houses. It can be hard not to feel inferior or subpar if you live in a smaller or more humble abode, but I’m telling you that it has absolutely nothing to do with your self-worth. Material things like houses, cars, and stuff like that don’t determine who you are and what you have to offer the world. Always remember that.
  3. Your relationship status When it feels like you’re the only single person in a sea of in-love couples, it’s hard to convince yourself that your self-worth isn’t determined by if you’re in a relationship or not. Always remember that you are a unique and wonderful individual and having a partner doesn’t complete you or make you better. You are the same you regardless of if you’re in a relationship or not and if you’re still single, don’t let the fear of being judged rush you into something with someone who isn’t right for you. You’ll find your person when the time is right.
  4. What you want in life.¬†Everyone’s dreams are completely unique and you should never be ashamed of what you want out of life. Some people have giant ambitions of breaking world records and achieving fame, and if that’s what you want, go for it! Other people just aspire to have a simple and content life with a happy home and a loving family and that’s also a beautiful and perfect ambition. Don’t let the things you strive for determine your self-worth just because they don’t match up with other people’s goals. Just do what feels right for you.
  5. Your past We all have a past. We’ve all been through struggles in life and we’ve all done and said things that we aren’t proud of or that we regret. Your past can help shape you and turn you into the person you are today but it certainly doesn’t determine your future or define who you are now. Don’t let the fact that you have a past keep you from pursuing what you want in life or having the confidence to put yourself out there.
  6. Your appearance We all want to feel good in our own skin and love everything about ourselves, but that doesn’t mean that we have to mold ourselves into what the world and the media tell us we should look like. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your heart and soul show more of your true beauty than your face and body ever will. Don’t ever let yourself be swayed by the harsh opinions and high standards of society. You are a total stunner because of who you are and how you treat others and the right people don’t need to be convinced of that. They already know.
  7. Your social status Having a ton of great and supportive friends is amazing but if you only have a few close people to lean on when others have an entire room full, who cares? You might not have the most active social life and you might not be the one that people look to as a trendsetter or the one to follow but, so what? You have people in your life who love you and accept you for who you truly are and that is all you need to be happy in life.
  8. Your achievements Life is full of big and small victories and everyone’s journey is different. It can be intimidating when you see other people that seem to be dominating every area of their lives and you’re still working on your own dreams. Don’t let it discourage you. Everything that’s meant to happen will happen in its own time and when it’s right for you. Don’t let it deter you and don’t give up. Your self-worth is determined by so much more than what you’ve accomplished so far and what you will accomplish in the future.
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