I Have The Rest Of My Life Figured Out, Now All I Need Is Love

My life used to be completely off the rails. I had nothing figured out and that mess spilled over into every aspect of my life, including my dating life. Now that I’ve finally got everything else figured out, there’s just one more thing I need — love.

  1. My career is on track. I went to school, paid my dues, and I finally have a job that I love. I’m happy with my work life and I know exactly where I want my career to go. I’m not going to lose focus because my work is my passion. I know that no man could swoop in and take all this hard work away from me. Once upon a time, work was just work to me, but now I’ve figured out that doing something I love is what a happy work life is all about.
  2. I’ve made my physical health a priority. When I was a kid, I never cared about my health. All I ate was junk food and exercise was my worst enemy. I was skinny (God bless a fast metabolism) so I thought I was okay, but I finally realized that being skinny and being healthy are two very different things. I’ve figured out a healthy diet and regular exercise routine. I finally feel good inside and out. I’m happy with how I look and how I feel, and that happiness doesn’t depend on what men think. That’s how I know I’m actually ready to let a man in without obsessing over his opinion of me. I know now that my opinion matters more.
  3. I know I have friends that will be there for me no matter what. Falling in love will always come with the risk of heartbreak, but I know that I can survive it. Why am I so sure? Because I have amazing friendsI know I’ll never lose. No guy could ever come between us and no man could ever leave me so shattered that my friends couldn’t pick up the pieces. I used to be the girl who made her relationship her entire life, but now I’m finally the girl who knows how to make her friends a priority.
  4. I’m finally mentally ready for love. I’ve found self-acceptance. The problem with my attempts to find love before was that I felt I needed love from a man because I never truly learned how to love myself. I was unhappy and I thought that finding “The One” would magically solve all of my problems — now I know better. I love myself and my life and now that I do, I know how to properly love someone else too.
  5. I’m a strong and independent woman. I proved to myself that I could survive all on my own. I don’t need a man or anyone else to depend on and that’s the best feeling in the world. I’ve finally learned how to depend on myself and pick myself back up every time I get knocked down. I have the strength to handle a real relationship now, and even when I find love, I know I’ll never stop being independent.
  6. I know exactly what I want out of life. I’ve done a lot of soul-searching and I finally know what I want. I have a bucket list involving travel, career, friendships, family and finally finding the man of my dreams. Now that I know what I want, I can finally look for a man who wants those same things too. I used to make my life about whatever the guy in it wanted, but now I know that what I want matters too.
  7. I finally have time for a real relationship. Since I finally have my act together, I actually have the ability to make time for a guy. Before my life was scattered, rushed, and going a million miles a minute in every direction. Now I’m focused and that’s going to allow me to dedicate some serious time for a serious relationship. Everything else is in order and that means I finally have time to figure out my love life too.
  8. I want to know what it’s like to love a man with my whole heart. I want to experience every aspect of life, including love. I know that my life mission isn’t to find a man, but that doesn’t mean falling in love can’t be a part of my dreams. I’ve worked hard to get where I am and to figure out the rest of my life, but there’s one last piece to the puzzle. I want to know how true love really feels and what it’s like to love someone forever.
  9. I want a man, but I don’t need one. Part of figuring out the rest of my life was realizing that I didn’t need a man to make me happy. I don’t need a man to make me happy now. Sure, love is another amazing life goal I’d like to check off the list, but if it never happens for me, I’ll be okay. I’m happy on my own and for me, being truly happy is what life is really about.
  10. I’m ready to settle down with someone. I’ve lived the single life to its fullest and now I’m ready for my next adventure. I don’t have any regrets about leaving the single life behind. I don’t feel like I missed out on anything. I’ve had some great years of just being a young and free single girl, but now I’m ready for more. I took the time to figure out me and it felt so good, but there’s one more thing I want, and that’s true love.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.