Ridiculous Lies Narcissists Tell To Inflate Their Own Egos

Ridiculous Lies Narcissists Tell To Inflate Their Own Egos

Narcissists have a unique relationship with the truth — let’s just say “it’s complicated.”

They lie with such conviction that it can leave you dizzy. While some lies are small and defensive, others are grandiose fabrications crafted to paint them as superior, successful, and unjustly victimized by lesser beings (that’d be you). Understanding their lies is key to seeing through the facade. Here are some of the most ridiculous whoppers narcissists tell.

1. “Everyone loves me — I’m the most popular person around.”

As Psychology Today notes, narcissists need constant external validation. They might boast about hordes of admirers or being the life of every party, even if the reality is far from that. The goal is to make you feel like the lucky one to be graced by their presence, masking their deep insecurity about being liked.

2. “My exes were all crazy/obsessed with me.”

Painting past partners as unstable is a classic narcissist move. It deflects blame for failed relationships, casting themselves as the desirable victim. But listen closely – the way they talk about exes is often how they’ll eventually talk about you. Bonus points if the exes all “mysteriously” cut them off, adding to the mystique.

3. “I was offered [amazing job] but turned it down.”

Narcissists fantasize about being courted for their brilliance. These stories portray them as so talented, they can afford to reject incredible opportunities. It also sets the stage for any career shortcomings – they weren’t fired, they chose to leave that position beneath their genius!

4. “Everyone is jealous of me.”

Any criticism, even valid, is twisted into proof of their superiority. A negative review? Jealous competitor. A coworker highlighting a mistake? They’re threatened by the narcissist’s competence. This makes them unaccountable and shields them from seeing their own flaws.

5. “I have connections to [important people].”

Name-dropping serves two purposes: it makes the narcissist seem important by association, and it can intimidate you. They might claim close friendships with celebrities or powerful figures, even if it’s all smoke and mirrors designed to make you feel less-than in comparison.

6. “I’m incredibly generous/selfless/kind…”

A narcissist claiming they’re a saint is a HUGE red flag. True kindness doesn’t need bragging. They’ll loudly recount acts of “charity,” often exaggerated or with strings attached, to build an image while actually remaining very self-serving at their core.

7. “You’re so lucky to have me.”

This isn’t sweet, it’s manipulation. They constantly remind you that you should feel grateful for their presence, making it seem like you’re the one who won the lottery, not them. This erodes self-esteem, making it harder to leave a toxic dynamic.

8. “I’ve never met anyone like you before.”

In the early stages, this seems romantic, but really, it’s a grooming tactic, PsychCentral explains. They build you up as special, the one who finally understands them, to gain trust. Sadly, once you’re hooked, the pedestal turns into a chopping block as they start devaluing you like everyone else.

9. “I’m a self-made success, I never had any help.”

Narcissists HATE acknowledging any advantages they had. They spin tales of pulling themselves up from nothing, emphasizing how their talent alone propelled them to heights mere mortals couldn’t reach. This ignores any assistance, privilege, or even luck they benefited from.

10. “I could have been a [pro athlete/ famous musician/ whatever] if I wanted to.”

The narcissist has untapped potential in literally every field…in their twisted reality. It explains away why they’re not currently dominating said field (they were too busy being brilliant at something else). This paints them as superior, even without having the actual accomplishments.

11. “I’m so good at [thing they suck at]!”

Their inflated self-image makes it impossible to see their flaws accurately. They’ll insist they’re amazing at something they’re objectively bad at. Contradict them, and be prepared for rage! Acknowledging even a smidgen of imperfection shatters their ego.

12. “I would never do that!” … after doing exactly that.

Narcissists rewrite reality on the fly. Getting caught in a lie? They’ll flat-out deny it, gaslight you into questioning your memory, or twist the story so you’re the crazy one for remembering it correctly. Accountability? Never heard of her.

13. “You’re overreacting/too sensitive.”

When you call out their hurtful behavior, prepare for this go-to. It minimizes your valid feelings, making your reaction the “problem” rather than their actions. This is designed to shut down any confrontation and maintain their control.

14. “If you really loved me, you would…”

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Emotional blackmail at its finest. They weaponize love to manipulate you into doing what they want. This sets the standard that you must constantly prove your loyalty by sacrificing your boundaries, feeding their insatiable need for control.

15. “I’ve changed.” …after behaving horribly.

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They apologize with the sincerity of a wet paper bag. These apologies are about regaining your trust, not genuine remorse. True change takes work, something most narcissists aren’t willing to do. Watch their actions, not their promises, as the bad behavior will inevitably resurface.

16. “Everyone else is the problem, never me.”

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Their world is full of idiots and villains out to get them. Blaming everyone else preserves their image of perfection. This can become all-consuming, leaving you isolated as they turn on anyone in their orbit, including friends and family.

17. “You made me do this!”

A narcissist refuses to accept responsibility for their outbursts or cruelty. Instead, they’ll frame it as you forcing their hand by being difficult (aka a normal human being). This justifies their behavior and makes you question whether you’re the abuser in the dynamic.

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Harper Stanley graduated from Eugene Lang College at The New School in NYC in 2006 with a degree in Media Studies and Literature and Critical Analysis. After graduating, she worked as an editorial assistant at The Atlantic before moving to the UK to work for the London Review of Books.

When she's not waxing poetic about literature, she's writing articles about dating, relationships, and other women's lifestyle topics to help make their lives better. While shocking, she really has somehow managed to avoid joining any social media apps — a fact she's slightly smug about.