If He Says Any Of These Things When You Turn Him Down, You Dodged A Bullet

If there’s one thing that a lot of guys can’t handle, it’s rejection. Even the strongest guys out there will get salty if they’re rejected by a girl they like, and that means that they won’t be able to keep their mouths shut. They’ll say stupid, mean things just to try to get under the girl’s skin as a parting shot. If you’re born female, you’ve probably heard these BS lines from guys who were just too salty to take rejection like a mature adult:

  1. “I don’t think it’s fair that you won’t even give me a chance. I’m such a nice guy.” Well, I don’t think it’s fair that a guy feels like he should be entitled to time with a girl who’s not attracted to him. Love isn’t fair. If it was, we’d be living in the Disney universe and everyone would be paired up. Guys who whine like this need to grow a pair!
  2. “I don’t like you, anyway! You’re a fat, ugly bitch and I was doing you a favor.” First off, this is a great way to show the girl he liked that he’s a horrible human being who’s incapable of empathy. Secondly, guys who say this don’t even seem to recall that they were just telling that girl how beautiful she is. Third, they don’t realize how stupid they’d look if what they said was true.
  3. “Can I at least get a hug?” Wait, are girls supposed to give consolation prizes to guys now? If a girl doesn’t want to touch a guy, he shouldn’t put her on the spotlight and guilt his way into a hug. This is boundary-crossing behavior and it’s NOT. COOL.
  4. “Go ahead and go for a bad boy type who will beat you, just don’t come crying to me.” It’s really scary to think about how many guys really believe women actively seek out abusers. When a guy says this, he’s literally saying that women who reject him deserve to be beaten. Nobody deserves that except for abusers, and frankly, the fact that he’d say this to you means that you just dodged a huge, immature, self-centered bullet.
  5. “You’re a stupid promiscuous woman, anyway.” Yes, because clearly, women who are promiscuous are the ones who reject guys’ advances. Right. Isn’t that the opposite of what a promiscuous woman does, by definition? Also, why is it that we devalue women based on how many partners they had but don’t do the same for guys? Yeah, bro, your misogyny is showing.
  6. “But I bought you dinner!” It’s this kind of salty behavior and whining that makes women very uncomfortable with accepting gifts or free meals from guys. Just because he bought you dinner doesn’t mean that you’re obligated to have sex with him, date him, or marry him. If guys like this want “transactional love,” they can see an escort for an hour.
  7. “Let me guess, your boyfriend probably doesn’t have nearly as much money as I do.” Once again, this is such BS on so many levels. Guys who say this are salty because they legitimately think that money can buy them love. It can’t. So why do they feel like they need to take it out on us and criticize our taste in guys?
  8. “I get girls all the time, I don’t need you.” If he was really so successful with women, why would he be on Tinder, desperately trying to chat you up? Guys who boast about sex are usually the ones who never seem to get any — and if they act like this, it shouldn’t surprise anyone why this is the case.
  9. “Wait, you thought I was hitting on you?! I have a girlfriend!” If he was legitimately cuffed with a girl, why would he be on OkCupid or Tinder? Moreover, if he actually has a girlfriend, then that should tell you volumes about what kind of a human being he is. Bullet dodged, oh yes.
  10. “Guys like me don’t have a chance in hell with gorgeous girls like you. All you want is a six pack, a six figure income, and a tall guy.” Most guys I know who are taken and having sex on the regular have NONE of these things, so it’s not like that really matters to girls. No, we want personality, not whining sacks of garbage. Unfortunately, guys who get this way are more whine and cheese than wine and dine.
  11. “You’re really too young to know any better. I pity you.” I’ve gotten this from a 40-year-old who thought that it was “cute” that I wanted someone who wasn’t so much older than me. Guys who say this stuff are condescending, rude, and entitled guys who literally can’t understand why girls young enough to be their daughters don’t want them. Meanwhile, I don’t see those chaps hitting up grannies, so maybe they should drop the double standard.
  12. “Friendzoned again!” No, dude, you weren’t put in the “friendzone.” At best, you had a female friend who you creeped out and emotionally abused because you couldn’t handle the fact that she didn’t want to sleep with you. At worst, you were placed into the “Oh god, why is he still talking to me?” zone. Need I say any more?
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.