Sex Has Become Cheap—It’s Time We Make It Expensive Again

It wasn’t so long ago that people would wait until at least the third date to get busy in bed, but with all this new technology and different ways of communicating, sex has become as cheap as a Domino’s pizza and I hate it.

  1. Internet porn is mostly to blame. If you go back a few decades, people had to go to great lengths to see porn. You had to sneak into that creepy, adult section of video stores or shamefully buy a dirty magazine at the pharmacy just to see something dirty. Nowadays, all you need to do is hop on your smartphone, type in “porn,” and you’re presented with a million free sites with all the sexual scenarios you can dream of.  Our generation is spoiled with easy access to sex, and this overexposure normalizes it, turning it into more of a sport than an intimate moment. Just sayin’.
  2. It’s considered a feminist statement to sleep around. Not sure when this happened, but there’s a ton of pressure these days for women not to care about having random, casual sex. It’s considered “freeing” to take on the same attitude towards sex that men traditionally have in the past. Having lots of casual, no strings attached sex is meant to be “empowering,” but what we’re not taking into consideration is the crappy feeling that comes with doing this. I think it takes a really strong person to sleep with a lot of people and not get attached, and I can’t help but think guys are kinda exploiting this trend (and we’re letting them).
  3. Kinky sex is trendy now. Remember when anal sex was really popular a few years ago? There seems to be a sexual revolution going on right now where everything goes, and that’s kind of exciting, sure, but it’s also kinda turning a special, intimate thing into a purely physical activity. Sex is about more than just how it feels in your body. It’s supposed to be about the connection.
  4. No one wants to get married anymore. With all these exciting possibilities out there, we’re not as likely to want to settle down and stick to having sex with one person for the rest of our lives. It used to be that a long-term relationship was the goal of dating someone, but now it feels like everyone just wants to use each other for sex and move on. Am I alone in thinking this?
  5. Open relationships are a thing now. The idea of dating other people while in a long-term relationship used to be only reserved for the hippies and alternative thinkers, but now everyone seems to be interested in dating multiple people at once. I’ve been on the outside of an open relationship and trust me, you just end up feeling like you’re being used. The second people get into a relationship, they’re thinking about how they can get out. Everyone seems to be distracted by all the possibilities out there and aren’t treasuring the sex they have with their partner.
  6. Dating apps have made sex too readily available. Sex has become this thing that we can order, almost like when you dial up Domino’s for a delivery. It’s just so easy to get nowadays. There’s a whole group of people who are on these dating apps just to get laid, so there’s never usually a problem in finding a hookup. What we have to realize is that we’re not pizzas meant to satisfy each other’s hunger. We’re human beings!
  7. Splitting the bill is normal now. It used to be that a guy would take a woman out on multiple dates before any questionable activities would happen under the sheets. Nowadays, guys have this idea that they don’t need to work for their reward. A lot of them think women should put out on the first date and split the bill. How unromantic.
  8. We aren’t really thinking about our futures anymore. With all of these new technologies to provide us with the cheap thrills of easily accessible sex, we aren’t really concerned about finding a long-term partner anymore. Sex used to feel like a bonus, but now it’s like the main reason people date.
  9. Fuckboys are a thing now… The fact that there’s a type of guy out there who gets laid based on his level of laziness is proof enough that sex has become incredibly cheap. Why are we jumping on guys who dress sloppily, party all day and night, and never call us back? The minute we stop sleeping with these losers is the minute sex becomes expensive again.
  10. We don’t feel like we need to wait anymore. It feels like a huge deal when we decide to wait before having sex with someone. What we don’t realize is that we’re being influenced by movies, TV shows, and the politics of the day to ignore whether or not we’re comfortable with sleeping with someone and just jump into bed anyway because it’s badass? If you truly want to have sex, have it, but don’t do it because you think it’s cool. You’ll regret it, trust me.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

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