Signs A Guy is Sensitive Deep Down, According To A Guy

A lot of us guys tend to hide our sensitive sides, but if you notice these subtle signs, chances are you’ve landed a guy who’s a total softie inside.

  1. He actually listens to you. Obviously, this is a rare trait to find in men nowadays. Most of the time, we’re thinking about what we’re going to say next and plotting our next move. A guy who’s sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of the people around him will actually be listening to you speak. If he’s actually looking at you and responding in ways that make it obvious he was paying attention, he’s probably the sensitive type.
  2. He has realistic life goals. Yes, we’d all like to win a Super Bowl or become a CEO one day, but that’s probably not going to happen. If a guy goes on and on about his big dreams, he’s probably a little delusional and self-centered. More sensitive guys, on the other hand, will have modest career expectations and talk about the kind of family we envision for ourselves down the line.
  3. He’s super polite. This can be a tricky one to spot. Some guys have simply been well trained to act polite around a lady. Either they have mothers that engrained it in their heads or they think it’ll trick women into sleeping with them. Genuinely sensitive guys, meanwhile, will actually be aware of other people’s needs and feelings. It’s something that comes more naturally to them. If a guy is trying too hard to be polite, he’s probably a phony.
  4. He has a creative job. This is a bit of a cliche, but it usually holds up. If a guy works as a writer, painter, musician, or any kind of artist or creative type, he’s probably the sensitive type. We creative types need to feel something in order to work. That’s just the way it is.
  5. He tells interesting stories. Everyone has stories to tell, but sensitive guys will be better storytellers. This relates back to us being more creative than our less sensitive brethren. If you talk to a guy who seems to have a good imagination and can tell you stories about himself in a captivating way, he’s probably going to be a little more sensitive than the average guy.
  6. He hates loud noises. If a guy is hesitant to meet you at a dance club or looks out of place at one, he probably has a sensitive side. We sensitive fellows can’t stand the loud noises and flashing lights. It conflicts with our self-reflective nature and it’s no coincidence that we’re also sensitive in the other aspects of our lives as well.
  7. He’s down with alone time. Some guys are super active and always up for going out and exploring new things. Sensitive guys, on the other hand, are perfectly fine hanging out alone or being with you one-on-one. This doesn’t mean sensitive guys aren’t willing to try new things and go on an adventure, but they don’t feel compelled to do those things all the time. More importantly, they don’t always feel the need to be in a large group.
  8. He’s quiet. Let’s be clear, there’s a difference between a guy who’s quiet and a guy who’s boring. If a guy doesn’t do a lot of talking, it doesn’t mean he’s boring. Instead, he probably means he’s sensitive and self-reflective. He’s more of a thinker than a talker. A sensitive guy like this probably has a lot of interesting things to say. You just have to gently coax him out of his shell.
  9. He’s fallen for you way too fast. This is one of the potential downsides of dating a sensitive guy. One of their flaws is that they get wrapped up in their emotions rather quickly. If a guy is trying to make your relationship a serious one a little too soon, he’s probably the sensitive type. Thankfully, this doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker. Just tell him to pump the breaks a little, and because he’s sensitive deep down, he’ll understand.
  10. He takes criticism personally. This is another obvious flaw. Guys who can channel their feelings will take any little criticism as a personal attack on them. If you spot this flaw in a guy, make sure you’re careful not to be too harsh if you say something negative about him or something he did. He may not take it well or bounce back from it quickly.
  11. You don’t need to tell him how you feel (because he can already tell). If you’re with a guy who knows how you feel without telling him, he’s not psychic, he’s just sensitive. As mentioned, sensitive guys pay attention when you speak, so they pick up on things a little quicker than most guys. If he’s able to pick up on little changes in your mood, it’s a sign that deep down, the guy has a sensitive side.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.