Most of us aren’t born with tons of confidence. In fact, the world magically finds a way to tear us down at every available opportunity, so walking through the world with a sense of self-assurance and a firm grasp on your worth is an incredible feat. Unfortunately, not everyone will see it that way. Chances are, your confident personality intimidates people more than it inspires them if you do these things. Never apologize!
1. Your Eye Contact Is Intense.
You know eye contact is an important part of self-confidence because it shows people that you’re assertive and self-assured. However, if you’re gazing intensely into other people’s eyes without breaking contact, they might feel a bit exposed and somewhat freaked out even though you’re just trying to show that you’re being present and paying attention.
2. You Have A Strong Presence.
Your confidence enables you to fill a space instead of finding yourself shrinking in it. You don’t walk into a room, you strut confidently, commanding everyone’s attention. People notice you, but insecure people might feel intimidated by your very presence because they wish they were more like you. They might even label you as conceited or arrogant because they just don’t understand how anyone could have so much natural swagger.
3. You Don’t Hesitate Before Making Decisions.
You’re fearless when it comes to taking charge of your future. You don’t pause before going for what you want, which less confident people might be thrown off by. While they hem and haw over what to do and become paralyzed by the choices ahead of them, you trust your gut and your ability to navigate pretty much any situation with ease. They only wish they could be like you!
4. You Don’t Feel Self-Conscious In The Silence.
A long silence during a conversation can make anyone stumble a little. It feels awkward and uncomfortable for many, but not for you! You can happily rest in the silence without feeling desperate to fill it. You recognize that sometimes it’s okay to sit quietly instead of engaging in meaningless chit-chat or trying to overcompensate for natural lulls in conversation. You’re all about going with the flow rather than trying to force it.
5. Your Body Language Is Strong.
Your body language speaks volumes about you, and you exude power through yours. You stand tall and upright and make purposeful gestures when you’re interacting with people. People who are less self-assured tend to shrink away or keep themselves closed off to avoid being the center of attention. To see someone hold themselves so boldly can be super intimidating for them!
6. You Know How And Aren’t Afraid To Communicate Clearly.
You’re direct and choose your words carefully, instead of stumbling over your words and throwing in fillers that keep you from getting to the point. This shows you’re confident and self-assured. If you’ve got a problem with someone, you’re going to go straight to them and sort it out instead of hiding in the shadows. Insecure people aren’t used to such direct communication and may feel intimidated when they’re confronted. Oh well!
7. You’re Unapologetically You.
People who lack confidence tend to apologize for taking up space. Not you! You express yourself authentically and show others around you that you don’t need their validation. This might throw them off, especially if they struggle to express themselves. Being unapologetically yourself is only intimidating to people who are too scared to do the same in their own lives.
8. You Keep Your Cool In Even The Most Stressful Situations.
You don’t let pressure get to you even in heated situations. You’re confident in challenging situations and can stay composed no matter what life throws your way. This makes you someone others can rely on, although they might feel a tad intimidated by how easily everything rolls off your back.
9. You’re Completely Self-Sufficient.
Your self-confidence means you’re certain of your ability to handle challenges without asking for help unless you really need it. People-pleasers might find this behavior too assertive because they want to bail you out of your hardships and you’re not giving them a chance. They could learn some things from you!
10. You Know What You Won’t Tolerate.
You have a clear list of things you don’t put up with because you don’t allow negative things or people to hold you back in life. Insecure people might see you as too dominant, but that’s their problem, not yours! There’s nothing wrong with knowing where you should and shouldn’t waste your time and living accordingly!
11. You Stay Strong In Yourself.
You’re a centred person who can’t easily be swayed and on whom peer pressure has no effect. Your self-belief is rock solid. Being around you can be overwhelming because it’s rare to find someone who has such strong convictions and an unshakeable sense of self.
12. You’re Charismatic.
Confidence can be linked to charisma, and your self-assured vibe makes you magnetic to other people. People are always eager to figure you out, but not always because they’re intrigued. Sometimes it’s because your charisma can be unsettling and they might suspect you of having hidden agendas because they’re so intimidated by you.
13. You Dress To Impress.
Your sense of authority and self-assuredness often come across in how you dress. You know that how you look can sometimes help to boost your confidence on low days, and it positively affects the way you move through the world. Walking into a room looking amazing is sure to make people do double-takes.
14. You’re A Ray Of Sunshine.
Being confident and feeling positive are closely linked. Your upbeat personality helps you to be resilient. Negative people might feel like they can’t believe your optimism or they might try to challenge it because it’s quite intimidating. However, positive people are drawn to you because of your good vibes.
15. You’ve Got Your Insecurities Under Control.
Although you have insecurities like everyone else, you don’t allow them to take over. You use them so they work for you. This inspires others, but there’s nothing that throws people off more than if you seem like you totally love yourself. Again, that’s their problem. Don’t let them derail you!
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