You’ve been going along with the motions of your relationship but don’t feel excited or crazy in love. Maybe you think the spark’s dying and you have to try to get it back, or you’re wondering if you’re dealing with a case of depression that’s bringing everything (including your relationship) down. But here’s a thought: what if your relationship is what’s bringing you down? Here’s how you know your relationship isn’t making you happy anymore.
1. You’re Moody All The Time.
Lately, you’ve become so moody and you can’t seem to shake it off. Your friends have even commented that you’re not like yourself. Hmm. Although you might think you’re going through something, if there’s nothing in your life that’s making you feel that way, it could be your relationship. Maybe you’re irritated with your partner all the time.
2. You’d Rather Be Around Other People.
You might feel like you don’t have fun with your partner anymore, so you’d rather hang with your friends and loved ones. When you have some free time, the first person you want to hang out with might be your bestie or sister – not your partner. If this happens all the time, maybe your feelings are trying to tell you that you’re checking out of the relationship ’cause it’s not making you happy anymore.
3. You Don’t Even Know What You Want Anymore.
If you’re honest with yourself, you don’t know what you want when it comes to love. That’s okay, but it’s not ideal when you’re in a relationship. If this is something you struggle with, our sister site, Sweetn, can really help. They have research-based tips, tricks, and tools to help you get your mind right so you can upgrade your love life. Check them out here.
4. You Crave Time Alone.
Although it’s healthy to have time to yourself in your relationship so you can be alone with your thoughts and chase your passions, if you feel ecstatic when your BF says he’s going on a camping trip with his mates or when he cancels plans yet again, these are huge signs that you’re not invested in the relationship anymore.
5. You’re Stumped When Asked About Your Relationship.
When friends or acquaintances ask you about your partner or relationship, you don’t really know what to say. Instead of talking about how cool they are or how happy you are in your relationship, you find it easier to launch into all the negative things about them. Yikes.
6. You’re Holding Grudges.
If your partner’s nitpicking all the time or making you feel depressed, and they never change, you might be holding grudges against them or clutching onto resentment. You might even be trying to ignore relationship deal breakers, but this is making you even more resentful. Wow, it’s no wonder you’re feeling miserable.
7. You’re Picking Fights.
If you’re getting tired of being in your relationship, you might always be picking fights with your partner. The relationship is bringing you down and making you feel annoyed, but you might even be trying to fight with your partner to push them to break up with you. Yikes.
8. You Entertain Single Fantasies.
If you regularly daydream about being single again, that’s a red flag you could be unhappy in your relationship. Maybe you love hanging with your single friends so they can fill you in on their latest adventures, or you tag along with them so you can feel like one of them again. You might even be jealous when they talk about dating lots or having all their independence.
9. You’ve Stopped Telling Your Partner Everything.
Although you used to talk to your partner about everything that happened to you, you might have started censoring yourself. Maybe you’ve noticed they don’t give a crap about your day at work or they just don’t get your humor, so it’s put you off from sharing your life with them. Whatever the case, you’re reaching out to other people, like your besties, for support.
10. Your Fights End Abruptly.
When you and your partner fight, do your fights get resolved? Maybe you leave the room or your partner says you should just drop the issue. Yikes. If you don’t work through them, your issues aren’t being resolved. You’re carrying those issues and frustrated feelings around with you, which can cause you to fight even more with your partner. Too much drama.
11. You’re Constantly Disrespected.
You can’t be happy in your relationship if you’re not being respected. Maybe your partner keeps belittling you or crossing your boundaries by doing things they know upset you. This isn’t cool and it’s guaranteed to make you want to pull back, distance yourself, and perhaps engage in more fights because you don’t want to accept the disrespectful behavior.
12. You’ve Started Flirting With Others.
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, you might be looking outside of it for ego boosts. Maybe you flirt with others more, or you can’t help but imagine what it would be like to date the cutie at the gym who always gives you a flirtatious smile. This could be a way for you to test the waters of what it would be like to exit your relationship.
13. You’re Snooping Through Their Phone.
Snooping through your partner’s phone to check their private messages is a huge red flag that there’s no trust in your relationship. Maybe you suspect them of cheating and you feel like snooping is the last resort to confirm your suspicions. Without trust, you’ve got nothing, so why are you even still with this person?
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