Does he like me? It’s always the million-dollar question when you meet someone new. It’s not always easy to know for sure if someone’s into you or not, but it’s essential to try to get a read on them before you waste your precious time, ’cause you don’t need that. Need some help? Here are some pretty obvious signs that he doesn’t like you — and he’s not going to change. It’s time to forget him and move on.
1. He Never Drops Into Your Texts First.
You’re always the one who has to pick up your phone and text the guy, or you won’t hear from him for days or even weeks! You might feel like if it’s not for your efforts to stay in touch, he’ll fall off the earth and you won’t hear from him. WTF? This guy’s ready to pull away for good.
2. He Checks Out Other Women In Front Of You.
It’s normal to check out other people, but it shouldn’t be disrespectful. A guy who likes you and wants to build a relationship with you isn’t going to be drooling over other women in front of you. Such a diss! It’s a clear sign that he’s not interested in you. He’s got a wandering eye, and he’s going to make you miserable.
3. He’s Always Busy In Your Presence.
When you hang out, does he give you his full, undivided attention? No? That’s a huge red flag ane one of the biggest signs he doesn’t actually like you (at least not enough)! Maybe he’s always checking his phone or he chats to friends who pop around at the restaurant where you’re grabbing lunch. Maybe he seems distracted AF and blames work. Um, why is he with you if he’s not even talking to you?
4. He’s Irritable On Dates.
A guy who’s into you is gonna be having fun in your company. He’s not going to be irritable or in a bad mood that he’s taking out on you. That’s a red flag you’re dealing with a guy who’s not respecting you. He might just be going through the motions, but why the hell do that? Maybe you’re making it too convenient for this lazy AF guy to have a date when he needs one. Ugh. You should’ve just stayed home ’cause it would’ve been more fun.
5. He Invites You To Group Outings.
Group dates can be awesome, but you want to ensure you’re still getting one-on-one dates with a guy you’re seeing. If not, then what the heck is happening? If he only invites you out with his mates, and it’s not even group dates, he’s not keen on spending quality time with you and you alone.
6. He Makes Excuses To Cut The Dates Short.
When you meet up for coffee or cocktails, he alway seems to be in a rush. He drinks fast and always has an excuse for why he’s gotta race back to work or he’s gotta go help his friend. The excuses are unreal and they just keep coming. Why is he even meeting up with you, unless you’re just a backup option? Sorry, ladies, but it’s not good enough.
7. He Never Wants To Hang In Your Favorite Places.
You invite him to your favorite Thai restaurant or local outdoor cinema park, but he never seems enthusiastic to do what you want to do. Hmm. It seems he’s only keen to see you on his terms, and always on a Thursday. Great compartmentalizing there, bro. Instead of hanging in your area, he likes to take you to his side of town. Is he trying to hide you from people who might know him? It does make you wonder.
8. He Leads You Down A Flirting Dead-End.
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You and the guy can flirt up a storm via text, and it makes you feel like he really wants you. But then the flirts never go anywhere. He always leads you to a dead-end. WTF? You’re just wasting your time flirting with the guy ’cause he’s not interested in anything serious, like planning dates. He might just be flirting with you when he’s got nothing else going on in his life.
9. He Leaves Your Messages Hanging.
A guy who’s interested in you is going to want to talk to you. He’ll reply to your texts and chat to you regularly. You shouldn’t be stuck waiting around for him to get back to you. Being left on “read” or “unread” sucks and it’s disrespectful. Why should you be giving him so much of your effort when he can’t even get back to you within 24 hours?
10. He Cancels Without Rain Checks.
You guys had planned to go to a cooking class or tango club and he cancels ’cause something’s come up. Fine. But then he never says that he can take a rain check. You’re left wondering if he’s gonna re-make those plans or make new ones. Woah, it’s just too much work for no reward.
11. He Doesn’t Share Who He’s With.
When you’re not together, does the guy seem to disappear into his life, and you know nothing about it? Huge red flag. He never tells you if he’s hanging out with his mates or whoever. His life’s a huge mystery (read: he’s not being real and if you do try to find out where he was last weekend, he gives you vague AF answers. Nope.
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