Is He Only Texting You When He’s Bored Or Lonely? Here’s How To Tell

Texting can be a great way to get to know a guy you’ve met online before a real life meeting, but it can also show you where a guy’s at after you’ve started dating. If he’s always firing up your phone with texts and wants to have interesting conversations, it’s a way of showing his interest in you. But if he’s only texting you because he’s bored and lonely AF, it will show in other ways. Here are just a few signs to look out for:

He’s a vampire texter. 

The guy sends you texts at night, usually around bedtime, but then never really texts during daylight hours. Either he’s got insomnia and is bored as hell so he texts a fellow night owl (that he seems to think is you) for entertainment, or more likely he’s got booty calling on his mind.

He’s the king of charm. 

Don’t just check the quality of the guy’s texts, but also how he opens up a conversation with you. Is it always a flirtatious comment or compliment to you that gets things going? Maybe he’s just looking for some screen love to give him a bit of excitement.

He never wants to turn texting into actual plans. 

Even if his texts are amazing and he likes chatting to you because he does it all the time, you can tell if he’s just bored or lonely by noting if he ever suggests meeting up in person. Come on, after all that texting, he should be dying to touch and kiss you in real life! If he’s hiding behind the screen of his phone a little too much with no RL plans to get together, it’s too convenient. He doesn’t have to do much (like put on pants) and he can have a virtual relationship with someone awesome to make him feel good. Can you say creepy?

He initiates conversation but goes AWOL in the middle of them. 

If might be a good sign that he wants to have conversations with you on a regular basis, but not so much if he keeps disappearing during the chats. It makes you think he’s only keen on chatting with you to fill a gap in his day or until something better, or more interesting, grabs his attention.

He disappears for days or weeks. 

For days and weeks, the guy will be sending you loads of texts. Then suddenly he’ll disappear and not even reply to yours. It seems you’ve been benched until he needs another shot of attention. If he’s not constant with his texts, it could point to him just chatting when he needs the distraction from his lonely, boring existence. Then, when his life and love department have picked up, he’ll take himself out of the picture again.

He texts but without saying much. 

Is there anything more annoying than those “How are you? Good, you?” texts that take up all your data and time but leave you feeling unsatisfied? If a guy’s interested in you, he’ll show you that interest by asking you lots of questions and having deep conversations via text. If he’s not that keen, he’ll be lazy about his texting. It’s like he’s just popping in to say hi and making the minimal effort required to get his chat fix before darting away again.

His texts are drunk. 

If the guy’s got great spelling and grammar skills but all too regularly his texts are all over the place with lots of errors or they just don’t make sense, you could have a drunk texter on your hands. He’s probably drunk and horny at home after a crappy night out, hoping you’ll give him some attention. Ugh.

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