Terrifying But Thrilling Things That Happen At The Beginning Of A New Relationship

Getting into a new relationship can be scary, but when you’re actually with the right guy, you soon realize that facing your fears is totally worth it. In fact, all the scary stuff is actually pretty thrilling, too. If you just got into a great relationship, you definitely have these terrifying, yet awesome things to look forward to:

  1. You learn to let your guard down again. Letting your guard down isn’t easy, especially if you’ve been hurt before, but it’s also one of the most raw and authentic things that can happen in a relationship. You’re more exposed than normal, and along with the fears about what happens next is a sense of freedom that comes with exposing yourself to the core.
  2. You get to have sex with a new person, and it’s amazing. When you really like someone, just thinking about them is enough to send nerves and butterflies flying through your body, let alone when they’re touching you. It’s not that the act of sex is actually frightening, but more like you suddenly feel slightly shy, like you’re back in high school again. It’s exciting and intense in the best ways.
  3. You develop real, intense feelings and it’s scary AF, but also exhilarating. The moment you realize that your feelings are real can be an alarming one. Suddenly it feels like every semblance of control you had has gone out the window and left you standing there in a vulnerable state with a goofy smile on your face.
  4. You get to meet his friends and family. Meeting the friends and family can be a big moment when you really like someone. They’ve heard about you and naturally have their preconceived ideas about you and the relationship, so you’re up against a lot. You go in hoping that you make a good impression and that your guy is comfortable enough to see this becoming a regular thing.
  5. You call each other out on BS and it doesn’t destroy your relationship. Very early on, you’re both on your best behavior, so things start to feel real when he calls you out on something from the perspective of a boyfriend. While it can be frightening to be uncovered, it’s also exciting but you know he feels comfortable enough to voice his opinion. Even better, you know you can do the same and your concerns will be heard and considered.
  6. You have “The Talk”… and it’s actually not awkward. Even when a relationship is progressing naturally, it can still be nerve-wracking to sit down and define the relationship. The more you like someone, the more you might question if they feel the same way. The Talk is that time when everything gets laid out on the table, but thankfully you’re pretty sure you know what the end result will be.
  7. You realize he’s not your ex. It’s too easy to carry things around that happened in your past, but at a certain point, your new guy shows you that he isn’t like your ex. Alarming. This is a great thing, but it’s also a step into the unknown. That can be accompanied by a certain amount of apprehension, but also excitement.
  8. He annoys you, but you’re still crazy about him. The first time you’re actually annoyed by him can be liberating in a weird way since it doesn’t make you want to run far, far away. You’ve passed the part where he can do no wrong and you’re seeing him for the real person he is — that’s a good thing.
  9. He sees you at your worst and stays anyway. Maybe you get sick or upset, your car breaks down, or you otherwise appear in a more helpless form of your normal self. It can be really scary to let someone see you in a state of need, and yet the fact that he wants to be there is heart-melting all the same.
  10. Your whole life changes for the better. Theoretically, everyone you meet could be changing your life in small ways, but realizing that someone has changed your life in big ways is a wonderfully weighty feeling. You see the good things that have happened but might also consider that you can’t imagine what you ever did without him.
  11. You realize you’re in love. What could be scarier but so awesome all at once? This is someone that you love and you’ll cherish your time with, no matter how things end up down the line. Once you feel it, everything takes on new meaning. The investment has increased. Whether you realize that you love him early on or it grows and sneaks up you, from the moment that you admit it to yourself, nothing will ever be quite the same again.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com