The 10 Types Of People Confident Women Will Never Allow In Their Lives

The 10 Types Of People Confident Women Will Never Allow In Their Lives

Confident women—the kind who carry themselves with a certain poise and aren’t easily rattled—have a vibe that says they know their worth, and they aren’t about to let anyone diminish their shine. So, it stands to reason that they’re pretty selective about the company they keep. There are just some types of people they won’t entertain in their lives because, let’s face it, life’s too short to deal with energy vampires. Here’s the lowdown on the personalities confident women steer clear of.

1. The Constant Critics

You know that person who’s got a ‘but’ for every compliment? “Nice job on the report, but I would’ve done it differently.” Yeah, confident women don’t have time for that noise. It’s not that they can’t handle criticism – they totally can, when it’s done right. But there’s a difference between someone who offers constructive feedback to help you grow and someone who just likes to hear themselves talk while chipping away at your self-esteem. Confident women prefer their critiques like their coffee: strong, but with a little sweetness to make it worthwhile.

2. The Green-Eyed Monsters

Jealousy – it’s as subtle as a siren and twice as alarming. Confident women can spot the signs from a mile away: the backhanded compliments, the forced smiles, the eye rolls when they think no one’s watching. It’s a whole vibe that doesn’t vibe with them. They’re looking for genuine cheerleaders, not undercover competitors. So, when the green-eyed monsters start lurking, confident women are already on to the next chapter, surrounded by people who clap when they win.

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4. The Fake Friends

Nothing irks a confident woman more than faux friends. You know, those who are all ‘love you, babe!’ to your face and then spill all your secrets over brunch? Nope, not happening. These women are all about authenticity. They want friends who are like comfy sneakers – reliable, supportive, and always there when they take on the world. So, when they sniff out insincerity, they’re quick to clean house. Life’s better without the fakers and the heartbreakers.

5. The Drama Magnets

Drama magnets are like human tornadoes – they touch down, spin everything around, and leave chaos in their wake. Confident women? They’d rather not get caught up in that storm. They’re over here building empires, smashing goals, and lifting others up. They’ve got no time to play the lead in someone else’s tragedy-comedy. Instead, they surround themselves with people who are more about peace than problems, more zen garden than battleground.

6. The Energy Drainers

Ever had a conversation that felt like a workout, leaving you more drained than an hour at the gym? That’s the specialty of energy drainers. But confident women are on to them – they can feel their vibe being sucked away and they’re not about it. They guard their energy like precious jewels because they know it’s the source of their power. So, when they come across someone who’s all take and no give, they know it’s time to put up boundaries stronger than a fortress wall.

7. The One-Uppers

You’ve just shared your exciting news, and before you can even bask in the congrats, the One-Upper swoops in. “Oh, you got a promotion? I just got invited to join the board of directors.” And there it is, your moment, snatched away. Confident women have little patience for these types. They’re looking for a squad that celebrates each other’s victories without turning it into a competition. So when the One-Uppers start their routine, these women are already out the door, looking for folks who know how to give props where props are due.

8. The Control Freaks

Control freaks can be tricky—they often disguise their need to micromanage as ‘just being helpful.’ But make no mistake, a confident woman knows the difference between support and smothering. She values her autonomy like a cat values its independence. Try to box her in, and she’ll gracefully find her way out. She’s all for teamwork and partnerships, but she’s the captain of her own ship, and she decides the course it takes.

9. The Haters

Ever met someone who’s got a cloud of negativity so persistent it might as well have its own name? Confident women steer clear of the Naysayers—those folks who have a pessimistic podcast playing on repeat. “It won’t work,” “It’s too risky,” “Why bother?”—they chant. But our leading lady? She’s too busy soaking up the sun to listen to the rain. She surrounds herself with people who say “Why not?” and “Let’s give it a shot,” because, for her, life’s a field of possibilities, not a web of limitations.

10. The Gossip Mongers

Confident women know that gossip is the fast food of conversation—easy, cheap, and ultimately unsatisfying. They understand that relationships built on gossip are as flimsy as a house of cards. So when the Gossip Mongers gather, they politely decline the invite. They prefer conversations that nourish the soul and respect the privacy of others—dialogues that lift spirits without needing to lower whispers.

11. The Passive Aggressors

Ah, the Passive Aggressors—masters of the backhanded compliment and the kings and queens of the underhanded jibe. “I love how you just wear anything,” they’ll say, with a smile that doesn’t quite reach their eyes. Confident women spot these stealthy digs from a mile off and know that this type of interaction is as nourishing as a meal of cotton candy—sweet on the outside but ultimately, just air. They seek straightforward, sincere communication where ‘I’m fine’ actually means just that, and any issues are served up straight, no side of sarcasm. When they encounter passive-aggressive behavior, they don’t bite the bait. Instead, they keep it moving, preferring the company of those who say what they mean and mean what they say, all with a genuine smile.


Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.