15 Things People Who Don’t Put Up With Anyone’s BS Have In Common

While a lot of people put up with friends, colleagues, or family members who suck the life out of them, there are plenty who nip those kinds of connections in the bud. That’s because they refuse to sacrifice their own time and energy on things and people who don’t serve them. Not quite there yet? Here are things that people who don’t put up with anyone’s BS have in common.

1. They don’t take things personally.

They know how to rise above people’s comments or snarky backhanded compliments. Instead of taking a diss personally or allowing it to make them feel stressed, they move on from it and forget about the person. This keeps them focused on what’s more important in life.

2. They forgive others.

It’s easy to hold grudges when people act up or do bad things. But, someone who doesn’t take BS won’t do this. Instead, they’ll forgive others because they know this frees them from carrying emotional wounds.

3. They call out bad behavior right away.

People who don’t put up with BS know the importance of nipping bad behavior in the bud right away before it grows. So, if someone dishes out a mean comment, they’ll shut it down. If someone rocks up to a date half an hour late, they’ll tell them how disrespectful it is.

4. They cut out toxic people.

Toxic people are bad for your health! This is something people who don’t take BS know, perhaps from bad experiences that have shaken them up. When someone’s manipulative or uses them, they’ll say “bye!” without a second thought.

5. They have strong boundaries.

Good luck trying to step over their boundaries! They’re so firmly in place, they’re concrete. People who set firm boundaries to block out the BS won’t buckle under pressure. So, if their boundary is that they need some space or self-care instead of a social outing, they won’t change it for anyone.

6. They respect themselves.

It’s about respect! People who refuse to take BS from other people know their self-worth. They’re not going to disrespect themselves for anyone else, because it’s not worth it. There’s no way in hell they’d put themselves down to make others feel big.

7. They don’t give second chances.

If someone treats them badly, they won’t put up with it or accept their fake apologies. So, for example, if someone stands them up for a date yet again or gossips about them, they’ll stop talking to them. It’s that simple!

8. They’re the person in their social circle who deals with the drama.

People who don’t take others’ BS are known for being the ones in their social circle who always deal with drama. So, if the wrong food arrives at the table, they’ll handle it. If someone’s rude to their friends, they’ll call ’em out on it. They’re always on the frontlines to clear the air and get things back on track.

9. Their friends come to them for help.

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People who don’t take BS are also who their friends have on speed dial for times when they’re struggling to deal with difficult situations. They’ll get clear, black-or-white advice to help them get out of dark days and slice through the nonsense!

10. They tell it like it is, but they can be blunt.

People who don’t take BS are honest and upfront. They’ll deal with confrontation without so much as a stumble. Other people appreciate their honesty, although sometimes it can come across as blunt to people who don’t know them.

11. They don’t like the word “maybe.”

These types of people don’t deal with uncertainties. So, they’ll ignore a text from a crush who says they’ll “maybe” hang out with them on the weekend. Ditto for friends who say they’ll “see” about helping them out. They only want to be around people who are clear and don’t give them mixed messages.

12. They don’t cave to peer pressure.

People who don’t have time for BS won’t allow others to mess with their heads. When it comes to peer pressure, they won’t crumble and do what other people want. They stand up for themselves and know what they will and won’t do.

13. They don’t let others’ opinions determine their choices.

When they buy a new outfit or car and people give them negative feedback, it doesn’t affect them. They won’t wait for “likes” on their social media posts about their new business venture or wait for other people’s approval. They do what they want and stay confident.

14. They refuse to settle.

One of the big ways people who don’t take BS live their best lives is that they refuse to settle. This shows up in their relationships. They’d rather be alone and single forever than stick with someone who doesn’t meet their needs or doesn’t make them as happy as they can be.

15. They prioritize their needs. 

Someone who doesn’t take BS puts their needs in the number-one spot. And rightly so! Without being selfish, they focus on what they need in their relationships and cut out people who don’t meet them. They know what they deserve and won’t budge. Life’s too short!

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Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.