Things People Who Are Happily Single Have In Common

Forget the sad stereotypes about lonely singles — there’s a growing group of people happily living life on their own terms, and they’re doing it right. They’re not waiting around for some magical partner to complete them. Here’s what makes the single life so fulfilling, and the traits that help people thrive solo.

1. They Prioritize Themselves.

These people understand that they’re the most important relationship in their lives. They invest in themselves – their health, mental well-being, and personal growth. They aren’t afraid to say “no” to plans or commitments that don’t truly serve them or add value to their lives.

2. They Do What Makes Them Happy.

They make time for the things they love – hobbies, creative projects, travel, whatever lights their fire. They’re not waiting for a partner to start living the life they want. This gives them a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment that romantic love alone can’t provide.

3. Deep Friendships Matter To Them.

Happy single people focus on creating strong, supportive friendships that are a true source of connection and joy in their lives. They know that romantic love isn’t the only kind, and prioritize quality time with their chosen family. This gives them a support system that offers different kinds of emotional enrichment.

4. They Set Healthy Boundaries.

They know their limits, aren’t afraid to say “no,” and fiercely protect their time and energy. This includes cutting out toxic people or situations that bring them down. Strong boundaries ensure that any relationship they choose, romantic or otherwise, only enhances their life.

5. They Have High Self-Esteem.

They genuinely like themselves, flaws and all. Their self-worth is built on a solid internal foundation, not external validation from a partner. This confidence allows them to walk away from situations that don’t honor their value and attracts others who respect them.

6. They Don’t Settle.

They have a strong sense of what they deserve in a relationship and refuse to compromise on core values or needs. They’d rather stay single and happy than settle for a mediocre partnership just for the sake of being coupled up.

7. They Have Emotional Self-Sufficiency In Spades.

They’re not afraid to be alone and can regulate their own emotions. They don’t look to a partner to fix their problems, validate their feelings, or provide a constant distraction from their inner life. This makes them more resilient and emotionally healthy. Romantic partners are a bonus, not a necessity for them.

8. They’re All About Growth And Evolution.

They’re always learning, evolving, and open to personal growth. They understand life is a journey, not a destination, and embrace challenges as opportunities to become the best versions of themselves both within relationships and outside of them.

9. They’re Unapologetically Themselves.

They don’t feel the need to conform to fit society’s idea of what their lives “should” look like. They embrace their unique personalities, interests, and life choices, without shame. This authenticity attracts genuine connection that celebrates their true self.

10. They Refuse to Play Games.

They expect open, honest communication and they’re not interested in the whole chasing/ghosting nonsense that’s passed off as normal in modern dating. If a potential partner isn’t mature, open, and consistent, they’re not afraid to cut ties and move on with dignity.

11. They’re Not Waiting Around.

They have full, satisfying lives and aren’t depending on some future partner to make them complete. They’ll welcome the right person with open arms, but until then, they’re focused on creating a life they love, independent of any romantic attachments.

12. They Avoid the “If Only” Trap.

They’re not wasting time pining over some idealized fairytale of how things “should” be. They accept reality with its imperfections, choosing to create happiness in the present moment rather than fixating on a hypothetical future partnership.

14. They’re Financially Independent.

They have their finances in order and feel secure in their ability to support themselves. This gives them freedom to make life choices based on their own desires, not financial necessity. It also protects them from entering less-than-ideal relationships out of desperation.

15. They’re Grateful For All The Amazing Things They Have.

They focus on the good in their lives, not what’s supposedly missing. This creates contentment and makes them more resilient against loneliness or negative social comparison. They recognize that happiness is a choice and a skill, just like any other.

16. They’re Genuinely Open to Love.

And that’s the key! They’re not bitter, closed off, or wounded from past hurts. They know they’re whole as they are, and IF the right person comes along who enhances their already great life, they’ll welcome that love with open arms.

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Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.
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