This Is Why ‘Taking A Break’ Actually Means Your Relationship Is Over

For some couples, taking a break is seen as a way of fixing their issues and preventing their relationship from breaking down. However, most of the time, it just adds further problems because you shouldn’t need time away from your partner to establish your feelings about the relationship. This is why taking a break rarely works out.

You’re not getting to the root of the problem.

Some couples think that space is the answer because it allows them to have a cooling-off period and think about what they need from the relationship. But you shouldn’t be trying to avoid your partner, you should be talking to them and trying to figure out what the issues are and whether you can work on them together.

You aren’t making the most of your relationship.

You could argue that if you need that much space from your partner, that probably signals the end of your relationship. After all, when you love someone, you’ll do anything that you can to spend as much time with them as possible—you wouldn’t try to cut down on your time together. If you ask me, taking a break seems like the step before realizing that the relationship is over.

Nobody really knows what it means.

When somebody declares that they’re “taking a break” from their relationship, you have to wonder what that really means. Every situation is different. How long are you planning on being apart? Will you still text each other? Can you reinstall Tinder and see where it takes you? It’s not always clear what the boundaries are.

You might move further away from each other.

Even though they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, you could also say that what’s out of sight is out of mind. The point is when you have a lot of time apart from someone, you might start to forget about all of the good things that have happened between you and instead, you might replace them with bad memories. The more you carry on with your life as if nothing has changed, the more that person slips further away.

It could mean that you aren’t very happy.

Taking a break suggests that you aren’t too pleased with your relationship because you wouldn’t feel the need to have space if everything was fine. At this moment, you should ask yourself if you really think that there’s anything worth saving. Something brought you to the point where you thought taking a break was the only option left, and that needs to be addressed first.

You might start believing that the grass is greener.

What happens if you realize that your life is significantly less stressful when you aren’t around your significant other? What happens if you start picturing yourself with somebody else? It just causes further confusion and hurt. That’s why it’s often better to end a relationship, rather than pressing pause on it.

It’s not a quick fix.

Let’s assume that taking a break does work for you and that you find yourself soon being reunited with your partner. Has anything really been solved? Time apart may have allowed you to see the bigger picture, but it hasn’t addressed the problems in your relationship. Repairing the issues in a relationship only comes through good communication and effort from both sides.

You might realize that you deserve someone better.

If it was your partner who suggested taking a break and you’re not completely on board with it, it can feel quite painful knowing that you’re not on the same page. At this point, you need to ask yourself if you’re happy to continue being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t take your feelings into consideration.

Most of the time, it simply doesn’t work out.

How many couples do you know that decided to take a break and never ended up getting back together? It happens all of the time. And even when they do get back together it’s likely to be brought up in the middle of an argument, especially if one of them was never happy with the decision. Sometimes it doesn’t fix any issues, it just creates new ones.

You don’t need to call it a break.

Sometimes, we might need a break from seeing everyone, even our partner because life can be overwhelming. If you’re struggling with your mental health and dealing with a lot of stress, then talking about it with your partner is the best idea. You could ask for a week or two apart while you work on yourself. If they really love you and want the best for you, then they will understand and support you. You really don’t need to put your relationship on hold to make time for yourself.

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