Woman Decides Not To Cook Dinner For Her Husband Just To See What Happens

The idea that it’s a woman’s job to do all the cooking and cleaning around the house is so 1950s, but you’d be surprised how many families still abide by these outdated gender roles. (In fact, it’s estimated that men create an extra 7 hours of housework for women a week!) Sick of dealing with patriarchy, author and content creator Victoria Emes decided that instead of racing to cook dinner for her husband and kids one night, she’d wait to see if her hubby would take the reins. Spoiler alert: He did not.

In a TikTok video, Emes said she was performing an experiment. She wouldn’t cook dinner or even mention food but would instead wait to gauge her husband’s response. She wondered how long it would take him to realize she wasn’t cooking and decide to do it himself. It ended up being a very long night.

“Sometimes, when I’ve absolutely f*cking had enough of being a woman, I like to conduct a sort of gender-based social experiment in my own home just to prove to myself that women do in fact do everything, that men have no fucking initiative, and that the patriarchy is a f*cking hot bag of d*cks,” she says at the start of the clip.


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By 6:30 p.m., her husband hasn’t clocked the fact that dinner isn’t being cooked and no one has eaten. “He has opened the fridge and looked inside sort of vaguely twice, but still, he hasn’t made any of the dishes,” she reveals. She added that if she was doing her normal routine, the whole family would have already eaten.

By 7 p.m., her husband is chatting to her about butterflies in their garden and still saying nothing about food. Emes is pretty hungry at this point but refuses to give in, saying, “I’ve got to do this for the sake of women kind. I’ve got to prove a point.”

After their son goes to bed at about 9 p.m., her husband finally offers to make some dinner. However, he doesn’t plan to spend much time in the kitchen. Instead, he wants to pop some fish sticks and fries in the oven.

“So, here you have it. I’m eating at 9 p.m.,” she concludes. “Three hours later than we normally eat. I hate men.” She jokingly added that playing this kind of game with your male partner will likely leave women “full of rage but empty of dinner.”

Victoria Emes is a trooper for following through on her plan. I doubt she’ll be able to keep it up, sadly!

Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.