Wait For The Guy Who Will Reject A One-Night Stand To Spend Every Night With You

You deserve a guy who isn’t only into you for sex, but your company, your brilliance, your mind and your conversation. When a guy can choose nights doing absolutely nothing on the sofa with you over getting out there and looking for thrills, then you know that you’re onto something real. Here’s how to spot this unicorn:

  1. You want something real and he’s into the same thing. This guy isn’t just looking for a quick party or booty call. He wants something that means more than quick gratification. How can you tell? He’s open and honest about wanting this from the beginning so that there are no misunderstandings. He’s sown his wild oats and now he’s looking for something real and meaningful… with you.
  2. He knows you’re worth it and shows it. He can see that you’re worthy of being his girlfriend and he’s quick to show it. He treats you like a goddess and makes you feel loved and supported instead of trying to hit it and quit it. With him, you feel appreciated and downright treasured.
  3. He’s a grown man who knows what he wants. What could be sexier than that? It’s so refreshing to experience, especially after dealing with commitment-phobe guys who act immature and give you mixed messages. Yes, getting with those guys can be fun but you can’t expect something real with them. When you finally meet one who’s confident in wanting real love, it’s a game changer.
  4. He likes you too much to risk losing you. Sure, he could go out there and get his groove on with other people, but he knows what he has in you and he’d rather avoid all that stuff than risk losing your interest. He shows you he values you by how he’s proud to be with you in public and by welcoming you into his entire life without keeping parts of it out of reach.
  5. He doesn’t see relationships as boring. Anything can be fun with the right person and this guy wants to share every experience with you. He values time with you over anything else that happens. He’d rather chill out with you in front of the latest TV zombie series instead of hitting the town because he always has the best time with you.
  6. He’s got long-term plans on his mind. Instead of getting with a guy who’s only talking about short-term plans like what you’re ordering for dinner or what you’re gonna be doing together next Saturday, this guy cares about the bigger picture. While he’s still happy to take things slow and let things develop naturally, he knows he’s ready to build a future with someone and hopes it’ll be with you.
  7.  He’s turned on by you but doesn’t make you feel like a piece of meatOf course you want a guy who finds you super sexy, but that doesn’t mean he has to try to get you into the sack right away. It’s so much more appealing when a guy can pace himself physically. You want to know that you turn him on but that he isn’t after quick, meaningless gratification.
  8. He matches you on all levels. A physical connection just isn’t enough anymore. You want the guy who has the same interests, a similar personality and similar goals. That’s where things really get real because they scream longevity. With this guy, you have your own unique interests and hobbies, but you’re on the same page on all the stuff that matters, and it’s refreshing as hell.
  9. He makes you a priority in his life. When becoming a guy’s new girlfriend, you might think that you have to try to squeeze into his life and priorities. But a guy who’s the real deal will show you right off the bat that you’re the number one priority. Of course he’s got other things going on in his life, but he never makes you feel like you don’t matter enough for him.
  10. He doesn’t care about convenience — it’s about connection. It’s become really easy to get sex these days. It’s everywhere, but that shouldn’t make you cynical about dating because love still exists. A guy who’s worthy of your time makes it clear that he’s not into scoring when it’s convenient for him. He’d rather build a connection with you and see where things go because he’s trying to build something that will last.
  11. He knows he has options, but he doesn’t give a damn about them. He might spot a stunning blonde at the restaurant when you’re out to dinner, but he’s not going to be on the prowl looking for other women out there just because they exist. He knows himself and what he wants — you — and you don’t have to doubt his feelings. This is the ultimate goal in a partner because it means that you stop feeling like he’s settled for you – and most importantly, you stop settling for someone who’s only sort of into you. That’s total BS!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.