Stop Wasting Your Life Waiting For Mr. Right – It’s Not Worth It

It might seem like waiting for Mr. Right is an honorable activity. After all, you don’t want to waste your time with someone who’s not worth it and if you want to find love, you want it to be long-lasting. However, stressing about when he’ll come along and be ready to build a future with you is a total waste of time. Don’t do it!

  1. You don’t have to kiss a lot of frogs. The thing about Mr. Right is that when he enters your life, he’s not going to make you doubt him or wonder when he’ll define the relationship. Although relationships aren’t always about smooth sailing, you definitely won’t be required to waste your life or lose your sanity for the right guy. He won’t give you mixed messages or lies. What you see is what you get. Refreshing, isn’t it? Now, use that truth to stop getting into relationships with toxic men who waste your time. You don’t have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your knight.
  2. When it happens, you’ll kick yourself. When the right person enters your life, you’ll wish you hadn’t spent so much time waiting for him to arrive. You might even regret how you spent your single months and years because you could’ve put them to better use. So do that now and you won’t have unnecessary regrets in the future.
  3. The future will take care of itself. The right guy’s not going to leave you in limbo. There’s so much stress surrounding things like defining the relationship, having The Talk, and so on that it can leave you feeling frustrated about dating in general. But you’ll only feel stressed when you’re with the wrong guy. That’s a fact. When the right person comes into your life, you won’t have to worry about all that stuff because game-playing won’t be on the menu. So why worry now?
  4. He’s not worth the tears. If you’re spending a lot of time crying about the person you’re with or relationship you’re in, sorry, but you’re not dating the right guy. You’re not in the right situation. Your perfect match won’t smudge your mascara by making you cry the Niagara Falls on the regular. And, if you haven’t met your right person yet, then why cry about him now? You’ve got more smiles going for you than you realize. Let life deal with when he comes along.
  5. Even mr. right isn’t worth it. You know what? Even the most amazing, perfect, brilliant guy isn’t worth a second of your time spent worrying about when he’s going to enter your life. Your life is worth so much more than finding someone to date! You’ve got better things to do.
  6. You’ll never have to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny. I love that quote! It’s something worth remembering because it’s so true. When the right relationship enters your life, it will suit your life. It will fit in perfectly without making you have to compromise yourself or make tons of sacrifices. You won’t have to compromise yourself to make that relationship happen, and that’s important to remember now as a single woman. Don’t compromise yourself or neglect your boundaries. Love yourself first.
  7. Your life should be full before you meet mr. right. It’s a total misconception to think that you need to find a relationship in order to have a beautiful life. It’s actually the other way around – you need to have an amazing life before you can meet your forever person. The catch? When you live your best life, you realize you don’t actually have to wait for anyone to make it better. It’s already amazing.
  8. You’re not a work in progress. You’re not going to be made “whole” or “complete” by your perfect partner. That’s total BS. Instead of being a work in progress, you’re a majestic, amazing, and perfect being just the way you are, right this second. You’re worth much more than you think and a partner won’t make you worthier than you are. Reminder: you’re enough.
  9. There are more important things. Seriously, would you rather find the perfect person to build a life with than actually having a lovely life? Would you rather find your soulmate instead of your soul’s purpose? There are so many ways to give your life meaning. Finding the perfect person could be just one of those ways, but not all of them. Never define yourself according to just one thing.
  10. Finding the right person isn’t an achievement. It’s built up in society as an achievement, but it’s actually not. Anyone can find the perfect person or The One at any time – it’s not something that’s reserved for a select few in this life. When you realize that love can be a game of chance sometimes and that we can build connections with lots of different soulmates, you start to see that finding The One isn’t such a huge deal. Perhaps it’s not even necessary.
  11. You’re your own soulmate. Forget finding another person for a second. Think about yourself as your own soulmate. When you do, it changes everything. It makes you realize that you’re in control and you have the power to live in any way you want. You can do anything you want to do because it’s your life. You might not have control over when or if you meet your perfect partner, but think of all the things you can control. When you see life in that way, giving you so many opportunities for finding happiness, finding The One seems pretty small, don’t you think? It’s a waste of time to wait for Mr. Right, but it’s never a waste to realize you’re everything you need.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.