How What You Do For A Living Affects Your Dating Personality

How What You Do For A Living Affects Your Dating Personality ©iStock/Eva-Katalin

Our careers say more about us than we think. We spend the majority of our days working, after all, and if we’re lucky enough to do what we absolutely love, we think about work 24/7. We all have wildly different and unique qualities – we’re bubbly or quieter, we laugh a lot or are more reserved, we’re super open or take a while to open up. Who we are definitely affects how we date and I fully believe that our jobs affect that whole process, too. Here’s what your career says about your dating personality.

  1. If you’re a writer, you overanalyze. You probably also get a lot of guys asking if you’re going to write about this date (the answer: probably, if it’s bad/unique/interesting). You’re used to thinking about yourself, the world and society. If you’re into the guy, you’re going to analyze the first date to death – you just can’t help yourself. Writers need to be with someone who won’t make them worry all the time, so you gravitate to chill, calm guys who never leave you wondering – they’re always upfront about how they feel about you.
  2. If you’re a teacher, you’re curious about people. You’re just endlessly interested in the people that you meet and this translates to your dates, too. They might think you’re asking way too many questions but it’s like a reflex for you. You educate young minds for a living and are super educated yourself. You love finding out more about someone’s past and present. You’re only interested in someone if he’s open about who he is, will talk about his hopes and dreams, and seems to have his life together (which is unfortunately rare these days).
  3. If you work in entertainment, pop culture is your jam. Maybe you’re the office manager at a production company or an entertainment journalist. Whatever your job, you’re not usually content to settle for drinks and dinner for your first dates. You want to do something culturally interesting like heading to a concert or a show or, OK, at least a beer crawl. You can’t date someone who hasn’t cracked the spine of a book in years and never leaves his apartment.
  4. If you’re a lawyer, you’re into debating. There’s nothing wrong with a friendly debate, even on a first date. You think it’s super boring that there are even rules about what you’re supposed to talk about the first time you hang out with someone. You want to talk about every subject under the sun and you’re not afraid of having an opinion. This might scare some people away but that’s okay. You’re not going to settle for someone who’s not as super intelligent and sharp as you are.
  5. If you work in PR or marketing, you make the first move. You’re an independent women and there’s no doubt about it: if you like a guy, you’re asking him out. You won’t sit by the phone waiting for a text or invite. You won’t wonder if he even would say yes. You just go for it and ask and let the chips fall where they may.
  6. If you have a dead-end job, you want to have fun. It happens to the best of us: we leave college wide-eyed and excited for the future, only to find our dream job way more unattainable than we ever expected. Now we’re stuck in a crappy day job and basically hate every moment of it. If this describes you, when you date, you want to meet someone who knows how to have a good time. You don’t want to depress yourself any further. You’re not super set on being in a committed relationship – hook-ups are fine, too. Whatever happens, you’ll be cool with it.
  7. If you’re an artist, you need to date another artist. You find non-creative guys super boring and you’re not going to date a Wall Street type and be happy. You’ve chosen to live your life the way you want to and you can’t imagine being with someone who isn’t the same way – especially since you probably keep pretty weird hours. Yours isn’t exactly a 9-to-5 lifestyle.
  8. If you’re a job-hopper, you won’t settle down. We all have that friend who seems to have a new boyfriend every five minutes and the same goes for her jobs, too. One day she’s going to be a yoga instructor, the next she’s starting her own gardening business. If you’re someone who could be described as a free-spirit at best and a flake at worst, you’re not getting married or even committing to anything anytime soon.
  9. If you’re an intern, you need a fellow dreamer. You may not be making much (or any) cash yet but you’re at least getting your start in your dream industry. You won’t give up on the career you want and can’t date someone who’s not exactly as idealistic as you are.
  10. If you’re a student, you’re not picky about someone’s job. How could you be? You’re still getting your education, whether your undergrad degree or grad school. Depending on your age, the guys you date might be students too or getting their own start in the working world. And hey, you could become a perpetual student and go for your PhD and maybe you’ll meet a cute guy sitting next to you. It could happen, right?
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.