Why You’re Never Truly Alone, Even When You’re Single

So you’re between relationships right now and feel completely alone. We’ve all been there. The truth is you’re never single, not really. When you think of a relationship, you think about couples. That’s not the only type of relationship. Being single in one way doesn’t mean you’re single in every area of your life. Don’t let loneliness overwhelm you. Focus on all the love in your life. Besides happiness is extremely attractive.

  1. You have family. We all have family, even if they’re not related by blood. Call up your sister or brother. Take your mom to dinner. Family is the first set of relationships we ever have. Nurture those relationships and you won’t exactly feel single anymore.
  2. You have friends. For many of us, our friends are our family. That’s perfectly okay. Often times, our friends are closer to us than any boyfriend has ever been. Don’t discount a friendship as not being a real relationship. It is real and it’s meaningful. Go out and enjoy having fun with your friends.
  3. You have co-workers. Your co-workers might not seem like much, but they’re people you interact with on an almost daily basis. Whether you like them or not, you get to know them and vice versa. You build relationships with these people. You may never be as close to them as you are your friends, but they keep you entertained when you’re feeling lonely.
  4. You always have yourself. Don’t forget about the most important person in your life – you. I know it sounds corny, but you are your own best friend and worst enemy. You’re the one in control of your actions and happiness. Shouldn’t that count as a form of relationship? Regardless, you can always count on yourself in life.
  5. You have neighbors. I’m not exactly close with my neighbors, but I always feel happy knowing they’re around. I know if I ever really needed something, they’d be there to help. Plus, they remind me I’m not alone. I might be single, but I’m still a part of the neighborhood. It’s a unique bond and one you should embrace.
  6. You have social media. I have a love, hate relationship with social media, but it is perfect for meeting new people. It’s really  hard to feel single and alone when you’re chatting with 10 people on Reddit about your favorite hobby. You might never actually meet them, but an online friendship is still a relationship.
  7. You can always volunteer. We’ve all had those times when we felt almost jealous of our friends and family in their happy relationships. This is where volunteering comes in to play. Nothing makes you feel quite as fulfilled and needed as helping others. Along the way, you build new relationships with other volunteers and those you help.
  8. You have pets. I know everyone can’t have a pet for whatever reason, but for those who do, pets quickly become family. No, it’s not sad if you talk to your cat or dog when you get home. They’re wonderful companions and you’ll never truly feel like your single when they’re around.
  9. You have your religion. For those who believe in a higher power, you can’t possibly think of yourself as single. You always have God or whomever you worship to guide you and live in your heart. Plus, you have your congregation to spend time with.
  10. You can connect with old friends. Do you miss your old friend from high school or even middle school? Look them up on social media. Reconnect and rebuild that old relationship. You’d be amazed at how good it feels to connect with someone from your past.
  11. There’s always someone thinking about you. It might sound creepy, but it’s comforting to know there is always someone thinking about you. It might be your best friend, an ex or that old lady you helped across the street. As long as you’re on someone’s mind, you’re not single.
  12. You have your memories. So what if your past relationships didn’t work out? You still have the memories and experiences. There’s no reason to throw away the good memories after a breakup. Tired of being single? Think about all the good times and you’ll remember that you were a part of something and you can’t ever be truly single after something like that.
  13. You have your hobbies. Nearly every hobby gives us a chance to connect with others. Maybe it’s playing sports in the park or joining a crafting group, you build lasting relationships just by enjoying your hobby. Every time you do you hobby on your own, you’ll think about your hobby friends and won’t feel single any more.

To me, single is simply a state of mind. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is just another relationship to add to the many other relationships you already have. Don’t feel single. Just feel loved by all those who care about you.

Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.