Woman Divorces Husband After Discovering He Calls Her ‘SWMBO’ In Texts To Friends

There are many things that can break a marriage, and it’s not always something big like cheating. Breaking your spouse’s trust or betraying them in some way can be insurmountable and bring a relationship to a screeching halt, as happened to one woman left her husband after finding out how he talked about her to his friends.

  1. The woman shared her experience anonymously for Mamamia. In the article, she revealed that while she and her husband share a son, her husband wasn’t all that interested in being a father. Instead, he continued to live a child-free lifestyle and showed a “stubborn reluctance to tell us when he was going to participate in our lives.”
  2. One morning, her husband’s phone wouldn’t stop buzzing. It was clear he was getting text after text, and she wondered what could be going on and if it might be an emergency. She picked up the phone and read a group chat between her husband and his friends where they discussed another wild night out.
  3. Her husband bowed out of going out for drinks. However, instead of taking ownership of his decisions, he instead blamed his wife. That’s bad enough, but the woman was more hurt about the fact that he didn’t even refer to her by name but by a hurtful acronym.
  4. In the messages, the woman was referred to as “SWMBO.” She asked her husband when he got out of the shower what this meant, and he didn’t hesitate in telling her: “She Who Must Be Obeyed.”
  5. Needless to say, the woman was furious. She told him that he’s not a child and doesn’t need her permission to do things but that it’s basic courtesy and respect to discuss your plans with your wife. “It’s called respect for your family,” she told him. And in this case, he had never even asked her about the plan before turning them down and blaming it on her!
  6. This was a major red flag. While some people would laugh it off or get over it, the woman felt like the acronym was indicative of a larger lack of respect and care for her as a person. Despite having been together for 10 years and married for five, she felt completely alone and abandoned in the relationship.
  7. Eventually, she decided to leave the marriage. Rather than stay with someone who didn’t value her as a partner or as a person, she decided that she and her son were better off without him. While this will likely have come as a shock to her husband, hopefully it’s a wake-up call that will encourage him to treat his future partners better.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill