10 Signs He Actually Thinks You’re “The One”

Guys don’t always display their emotions as openly as women, and because of this, sometimes it’s difficult to figure out if the guy we’re with is truly in love with us or simply enjoys our company. But while men may be mysterious in the ways of love, there are certain signs that reveal their feelings beyond the shadow of a doubt. Here are a few signs he thinks you’re “The One.”

He uses words other than “love” to describe how he feels about you. When he tells you how he feels about you, it’s so truthful you can feel it. He uses phrases like “I adore you,” and “I am so obsessed with everything about you.” In short, there’s more than one way to say you love someone, and when your guy starts to use some of the phrases, you’ll know he’s invested in you for the long haul.

He wants to be seen with you. Being with you is a badge of honor for him. He wants to take you places and meet people while he’s at your side. And while this may seem a little possessive at first, it’s really just that he’s obsessed with you and wants to share everything with you. He wants people to know that you’re together, not because he thinks of you as some trophy to show off to his friends but because he wants to be identified with you—to be seen as a unit, a package.

He was the one who suggested you meet his family. Meeting the in-laws can be one of the trickiest and most terrifying milestones of a committed relationship, but it can be even worse when the guy you’ve been dating for months seem suspiciously reluctant to introduce you to them. So if your boyfriend initiates that difficult and potentially awkward introduction to his nearest and dearest, chances are, he thinks you’re a keeper. Otherwise, he wouldn’t even bother putting anyone through such a nerve-wracking process.

You catch him looking at you all the time. Sometimes when you look over at him after you’ve been talking for awhile or have been sitting in silence together, you realize he’s been gazing at you in a very particular way. It’s not just that you’re beautiful (anyone can see that), it’s that he’s literally worshipping you with his eyes. He can’t get enough of you.

He’s a different person in bed from who he was when you first started dating. While the sex at the beginning of a relationship is often all about getting to know each other’s bodies and pushing the boundaries of the best sex you’ve ever had, sex between two people who are truly in love is a lot more intimate and harmonious. Men especially change their sexual behavior when they’re in love, initiating eye contact and actually wanting to take it slow. The difference between love and lust is a big one, and you’ll see the signs in the bedroom before you see them anywhere else.

He talks about you to his friends. No matter how much his friends adore you (and let’s face it, they absolutely do), they are probably sick of hearing him talk about you by now. Whenever he’s hanging out with them, you’re all he wants to talk about, and eventually they complain to you about it because, you know, maybe you could try being a little less lovable or something. The surest way to tell that a guy is absolutely smitten with you is that he can’t shut up about you.

The things he loves about you are ridiculously specific. It’s one thing to be told you have beautiful eyes or a nice butt—those things are obvious, and you’ve probably had to listen to people complimenting you on them since the dawn of time. But when a man is in love, he’ll find every last detail about you and fall in love with every single one. Maybe you have a perfect forehead, or maybe he just loves the way you breathe at the end of a really long sentence, or maybe he just can’t even handle how perfect your laugh is when you’re watching a certain show. Either way, he loves the very core of you and it shows.

He puts in a real effort. He is willing to take care of you when you need it and give you space when you need it. And he’ll wash the dishes in the sink and clean up after you if you really just can’t be bothered for whatever reason. If he isn’t a natural when it comes to housework or cooking or grand gestures, he’s made every effort to get better, and has basically become a self-taught expert on all of them. And this is all because he’s willing to put as much effort in as it takes to get you to be worthy of you.

He wants to spend time with you in a totally non-sexual way sometimes. He just wants to be around you all the time. You both have your own lives of course, but when you have down time, he’d rather go out just the two of you instead of going to a party or gathering with you. And even if you have the best sex on the planet, he’d still rather spend hours playing board games or hanging out at the park with you than have sex every minute you’re together.

He’s shown you and told you everything about himself. Men often find it harder to open up than women, so when you find yourself in a committed relationship with a man who shares his innermost secrets and fears and emotions with you, don’t take it lightly. It’s very rare for a guy to do this unless he is truly all in and can see himself with you for the rest of his life.

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