20 Signs You’re A Sexually Compatible Couple

Sure, it’s only one piece of the puzzle, but let’s face it: sex is an important aspect of any relationship. So before you hop into bed with someone, how can you tell if you’ll be sexually compatible with them? Incidentally, your day-to-day interactions with a person are full of hints about whether you’ll hit it off in the bedroom. Here a few indicators that you can look for.

  1. You’re not afraid to talk about sex with each other. You need to have good communication so you know where the other person stands at all times. If you’re not on the same page mentally, there’s no way you can be on the same page sexually. You should always be honest with the other person and tell your partner exactly what you want. If you can’t do that, there’s a problem.
  2. You love learning what the other person wants in bed. Because you’re not afraid to talk about it, you know what the other person likes. By communicating about sex, you get to know your partner so well that you know what makes the person tick and what doesn’t. For example, you know that your partner likes to be massaged before sex or that they love it best when you touch in certain places but not in others. The more you know your partner in the bedroom, the more sexually compatible you’ll be.
  3. You both know what you want. You should know what your expectations are when it comes to sex so you’re able to tell your partner. That’s a huge part of being sexually compatible. That includes knowing your sexual preferences, what you want sex to mean in a relationship, and what you expect from your partner. If you don’t know what you want, you might eventually realize that you and your partner aren’t a good match.
  4. You have pretty similar libidos. You’re a match sexually if you both want to have sex with a similar frequency. If one of you wants it once a month and the other wants it five times a week, you could be in trouble. There are natural ups and downs in the frequency of sex in a relationship and in each person’s individual libido, but there shouldn’t be too large of a gap in how much you both want to have sex. It could lead to big problems.
  5. You can compromise. Compromise is essential for sexual compatibility because no two people are identical. If you can somehow meet in the middle, you may be able to have a successful relationship even if your sex drives differ. Your sexual differences are less likely to break your relationship up if you can work with each other so that you’re both satisfied. You both should be willing to make the effort to meet each other’s needs so you can be in sync sexually.
  6. You have similar sexual preferences. If one of you is into BDSM and the other likes it vanilla and in the same position every time, it’s going to be hard to make that relationship work and to find a compromise. If one of you wants an open relationship and the other doesn’t, it’s only going to cause problems in the long run. If you don’t vary too much in your preferences, you’re probably compatible sexually.
  7. You have the same idea of what cheating means. Both people need to be on the same page about what constitutes as cheating to be sexually compatible. For example, if one person thinks flirting is OK and the other sees it as unfaithfulness, there’s no way it’s going to end well. Or if you’re still on Tinder and your partner would be upset to find that out, you’re not on the same page. You both need to agree on what behavior is and isn’t acceptable.
  8. You’re comfortable with each other. You aren’t afraid to be yourself around your partner in every way, including in the bedroom. If you’re honest about what you want and need, you’ll be able to have a much better sex life with your significant other. If you lie about what you like, there’s no way you can be on the same page sexually. Plus, your partner will be upset after finding out you haven’t been authentic.
  9. You don’t compare your sex life to anyone else’s. For example, some people are so concerned with how often they’re having sex compared to other couples. In reality, as long as you’re both satisfied in bed, it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. Each person and each couple has different wants and needs. One couple might have sex four times a week while another only once a week, yet both couples are happy. If you can focus on how good the sex is rather than how often you’re having it, you’ll have a much better chance of being a good match sexually.
  10. You’re not selfish. You should have your own needs met, of course, but you also need to care about what your partner wants. You should want to make the other person happy in bed. If you’re only focused on yourself, there’s no way you’re both going to be sexually satisfied. Things aren’t going to be perfect all the time, but wanting to please the other person goes a long way. Compatible partners care about each other just as much as they care about themselves.
  11. Every time you look at them from across the room, they catch your eye. It means they’re always aware of you and your presence. They’re always paying attention to you even when you think they’re not. That level of focus will definitely come in handy in the bedroom.
  12. You finish each other’s sentences. Sometimes it feels like you both have a sixth sense that lets you be totally in tune with what the other is thinking. It feels like they can practically read your mind. This proves that you’re on the same wavelength in many ways. In other words, it’s going to be steamy as hell.
  13. You can kiss for hours. And it feels like it goes by in minutes. If you never get tired of kissing them, you can be sure you’ll be great together when you take it to the next level. Foreplay and physical affection don’t have to disappear as soon as you hop into bed together. In fact, they make the experience that much better.
  14. They always seem to know what you’re thinking, even when you try to hide it. Did you think you were doing a great job of putting on a smile, but they can tell that something’s wrong? It means they can really read all of your subtle body language cues, which will make them a great lover.
  15. They just get it. You know? It’s like there are two categories of people in the world. The ones that get it, and the ones that don’t. Your partner does. That basic level of compatibility is essential to getting along while you’re getting it on.
  16. You can’t keep your hands off each other. You usually hate public displays of affection, but suddenly you find that you’re turning into that couple. And you know what? You don’t give a damn. They’re gorgeous and you just want to touch them all day. Being sexually compatible is great, but you have to want to rip each other’s clothes off too.
  17. You cut each other off when you’re speaking. The conversation not only flows, but you excitedly cut each other off because there’s so much to say and so little time. It means you two are in sync. You know what that means.
  18. They always make you feel beautiful, even when you’re having an off day. If they make you feel like a million bucks when you’re wearing no makeup or lounging around in sweats and a tee, you know you can let your guard down around them and relax. And we mean really, really relax. Those sweats might not stay on for long.
  19. They fuel your fantasies. You couldn’t care less about celebs, athletes, or any other gorgeous people you come across. They’re the one you’re thinking about and imagining all the time. Whether you’re touching yourself in bed at night on the rare night you’re alone or fantasizing while at work, they’re in your head, front and center.
  20. They make you nervous. You’re usually calm and collected. However, sometimes when you’re around them, the words just fly out of your head. It’s called sexual tension, honey. They’re a keeper. You’re full of pent-up tension that they can (and should) help you release.
Jessica Levy is a freelance blogger and content writer. She’s also a politics junkie, a fledgling foodie, and a frequent traveler. She has lived in Morocco, Israel, India, and Barbados, and never wants to be cold again. Follow her on Twitter!