After you’ve dated your fair share of jerks, you might have a hard time figuring out whether or not the guy you’re currently seeing is genuinely awesome, or if you’re just wasting your time on another disappointment. But the good news is, if these things apply to him, you can be pretty darn sure that he’s someone you’ll want to stay with for as long as possible:
You can talk to him about anything. The future, your psycho boss, sex, periods — you name it, he is happy to listen to you and have a conversation about pretty much anything that is on your mind. He doesn’t want you to ever hold back or keep anything in. In fact, a good guy will actively encourage you to talk about certain things, especially if he knows you’re a little more reserved and find it difficult to broach a particular subject. He looks at your problems as his own problems, and he’ll do anything in his power to get you smiling.
You feel more secure than ever. This is largely due to the way that he’s consistent, shows up, and always lets you know that he’s there even when he’s not physically present. You aren’t threatened by other girls because he’s made it clear that you’re the only one he wants. He makes sure that you have nothing to worry about when it comes to other girls showing an interest in him. You don’t feel the need to check up on him or to stalk his Instagram for potential homewreckers. You feel comfortable and safe in this relationship because of how he’s made you feel.
Your family and friends love him. If you have particularly picky loved ones, it might seem like no guy will ever be good enough for you as far as they’re concerned. But when you’re dating a good guy, your friends and family won’t be able to stop saying how nice he is and how cute the two of you are together. They’ll love him almost as much as you do!
He makes you feel beautiful. It’s not that you need a man to feel beautiful about yourself. You’re a strong woman all on your own, but he magnifies all your good qualities. He’ll have his own special way of making you feel like a goddess, even on those rainy days when you feel anything but beautiful.
You always know he’s got your back. Regardless of whether you’re in an official relationship with him or not, he’ll always defend your name and honor. You can trust him with your biggest secrets, those fears that keep you up at night, and the dreams that you’ve had since you were a little girl. A good guy will always have your back, and you’ll be happy to give him the same fierce kind of loyalty.
He doesn’t care about texting you twice. He’s not the kind of guy who keeps score. If for some reason you haven’t managed to text him back just yet and he has something to say, you can count on him saying it. A confident and self-assured man isn’t thinking about maintaining the upper hand in a dating situation. He isn’t into game-playing. He’ll always be 100 percent real and open with you, regardless of how many stupid “rules” he might be breaking.
He’s never too busy to make time for you. It doesn’t matter what time of the day or night it may be, and it doesn’t matter is he’s in the middle of something really important — if you ever need him in an emergency, he’ll be there in a heartbeat. A good guy might be busy — and let’s face it, aren’t we all?— but what sets him apart is his willingness and desire to make time for you.
He goes out of his way to make you happy. He does things he may not like because he knows they mean a lot to you. You know what I’m talking about: sitting through that soppy new chick flick because you couldn’t wait for it to come out on Netflix, or taking you to the ballet for your birthday even though he finds it positively dull. He goes above and beyond for you because your happiness makes him happy, and he wants to show you how much he cares through his actions instead of empty words.
He talks openly about your future together. You know you’re dating one of the good guys when conversations about moving in, marriage, and kids don’t send him running for the hills. He knows as well as you do that it’s important to talk about your life goals and wants early on, because if you want completely different things, it’s unlikely that the two of you are going to make each other happy in the long run. If he’s making plans with you for a few months or even years down the road, you can be sure that he intends to stick around to see them happen.
You feel like you can always be yourself with him. Remember all those times you caught yourself trying too hard to please a guy and selecting which parts of yourself you wanted him to see, hiding away anything you deemed as unattractive or uncool? When you’re dating one of the good guys, all that nonsense flies out the window. All those things you used to hide are what this guy loves the most about you. Your quirks, your vulnerability, your physical “flaws” — he values those things that set you apart from everybody else he’s ever known.