Love Isn’t All: 10 Things You Need To Like About Your Man If It’s Going To Last

You don’t need to love every little thing about your man. He’s human, which means that there are going to be qualities that you’re not fond of. However, if you want your relationship to last, there are a few things that you need to like about him and come to terms with. Otherwise, you’re bound to get into fights that could tear you apart.

  1. His physical appearance. Looks aren’t everything, so you shouldn’t expect your man to be drop dead gorgeous. However, you do want to be attracted to him. If you don’t like what you see, then your sex life is going to suffer.
  2. The way he treats you. If your man talks down to you, or treats you disrespectfully in any way, you deserve better. You might put up with his little jabs right now, but you’re eventually going to get sick of them. That’s why you should save yourself some time and drop any guys who treat you poorly now, before you get too attached.
  3. The people he associates with. You can hold onto the hope that he’ll drop the friends you can’t stand, but there’s no guarantee that it’ll happen. They could end up in your wedding party if you choose to marry your man, so make sure that his buddies are people you actually like (or can at least stand to be around for a few hours at a time).
  4. The way he kisses you. If he’s a horrible kisser, or horrible in the bedroom, then you’re going to sleep with him less and less until you stop having sex completely. That’s a recipe for disaster, which is why you should be with a man that you actually enjoy having sex with.
  5. The pets he owns. If he has a cat that’s only two years old, but will live until it’s at least twelve years old, you better like that cat. Asking a man to choose between you and his pet is cruel and unusual punishment, so when you eventually move in together, that pet is coming with him.
  6. His job. If he’s a construction worker, you don’t need to be a fan of cranes and forklifts. However, you should support his career and be proud of him for it. If you’re bitter about the fact that he’s not a doctor or a lawyer, you’re going to have unfair fights somewhere down the road.
  7. His sense of humor. If you don’t find the same types of jokes funny, then how are you two ever going to have a laugh together? You don’t need to date a comedian. You just need to find someone whose comedy coincides with yours, so that every moment together is a fun one.
  8. His hobbies. If his only hobbies include playing PlayStation and Xbox, but you disapprove of video games, you’re going to get into a few arguments over the gaming systems. You don’t have to sit by his side as he shoots down enemies in Call of Duty, but you do have to be okay with him playing games. We all have our own ways of relaxing.
  9. His sleeping habits. If his snoring is so bad that you can’t sleep in the same room as him, your relationship will suffer. Unless you can find a way to fix a problem, your relationship is headed for disaster. If you can’t even share a bedroom, how will you share your lives?
  10. His family. The better you get along with his mother, the easier your life will be. His family won’t be involved in every aspect of your lives, but they’ll pop up often enough. You don’t want to dread every holiday and birthday, do you?
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.