11 Things I Should’ve Told My Boyfriend Before Our Relationship Got Serious

My relationship with my current boyfriend progressed pretty quickly. We talked for a few days, dated for a few weeks, and became an official couple only about a month or so after meeting. I don’t regret rushing into things, but I do wish I’d told my guy certain things about myself before we entered an exclusive, committed relationship. If he knew these 11 things sooner, our relationship would probably have fewer bumps and way less drama:

  1. I’m Very Close To My Family. Like, VERY close to my family. My parents are my best friends and I tell them everything, which means they know every detail about my relationship. Yes, even the sexual part. Well, maybe my dad won’t know everything, but my mom will hear it all (we’re basically Lorelai and Rory, except she didn’t have me when she was 16).
  2. I Don’t Like Double Dates. Something about going on a double date makes me low-key nauseous. I don’t know why, I’ve just never been a fan of dining with another couple. I think it’s because I’m worried the other couple will start fighting, and then I’ll be stuck awkwardly looking at the members of the public who’re staring and judging us as a group. Unlikely, maybe, but definitely possible.
  3. I Have Trust Issues. I don’t think every guy is going to cheat. However, I don’t trust that every guy will call and text when they say they will, so I’m going to need him to show me that I can trust him. I need him to do what he says he’s going to do when he says he’s going to do it.
  4. I Spend A Lot Of Money On Workout Clothes. I spend a ridiculous amount of money on workout clothes. It’s not really my fault, though. I don’t make the prices for Lululemon. I don’t want him to comment on the amount of money I spend on athletic wear. Believe me when I say that I will literally die without those leggings.
  5. I’m Scared Of Falling In Love. And it’s not just because I have trust issues. I’m scared of falling in love because the relationship, naturally, will end at some point. Whether we break up for reasonable reasons or one of us dies (yes, I’m that pessimistic), I don’t want to feel my heart breaking into little pieces inside my chest. I’m scared of love because I’m scared of the heartbreak that will inevitably come from it.
  6. I Need A Lot Of Attention. I want to know I’m loved by the person I’m dating, and I’d like that love to be shown in everyday communication. If I haven’t received a text or phone call all day, I’m going to get super needy for attention and probably act out, like a fool, on social media. Hey, I’m just being honest.
  7. Silence Means I’m Pissed. I don’t scream when I’m angry — I get very very silent. He shouldn’t confuse my silence for me being okay, I’m not. The quieter I am, the more talking he needs to do in order to ease my thoughts and adjust my pissed off mood. I know it’s kind of immature and I’m working on it, but I can’t help my first instincts.
  8. I Don’t Know How To Cook. I’ve tried… numerous times. No matter what I make and no matter how hard I follow the recipe, it turns out tasting like complete crap. It makes no sense. I mean, my mom is basically a chef. You’d think those cooking genes would’ve been passed down but unfortunately, they weren’t. Sorry, but he’ll have to do a majority (if not all) of the cooking.
  9. I’m Not Super Emotional. Showing emotion isn’t easy for me. I need time in order to do that, so there’s a good chance he won’t hear me say how much I like him until we’ve been together for a while. But, I’ll show it all the time. If he pays attention to my actions, he’ll be able to clearly see how important he is to me. Words don’t come easy to me, but they’re kinda cheap anyway. I much prefer to put my feelings into actions.
  10. I Move Around In My Sleep. I’m not a graceful sleeper. I’ve been known to kick, steal the covers, and I’ve even punched someone in the face before (they were left with a black eye). The point is, sleeping with me is going to take a while to get used to… if he ever gets used to it at all.
  11. I Jump To Conclusions All The Time. If he doesn’t answer my call, there’s a good chance I’ll start to worry that he’s dead. Or that he’s lost interest and is in the early stage of ghosting me. He needs to answer his phone when I call or just send a text saying, “Call you later.” All he has to do is just reach out to me before I start jumping to conclusions, calling my friends for momentum, and driving to his place pissed and ready to do something hella extra.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.