You’re a strong, smart, hilarious woman, yet you’re still not in a relationship. What are you doing wrong? Absolutely nothing. It’s easy to internalize your solo status, but the truth is that you’re doing everything right, and it’s down to factors outside of your control. Here are some reasons why you’re single even though you’re a total catch, and anyone would be lucky to have you.
1. You Refuse to Follow a Timeline
Women who settle are the ones who think they’re running out of time and that true love isn’t in the cards for them. However, that’s not the case for you. You know your person is out there, and you’re not settling for anything less. Of all the reasons you’re single, this is probably the one you should be most proud of.
2. You’re Waiting for Someone Worthy
You’re amazing, so why would you even bother being with someone who doesn’t equal you in that? You’re looking for someone who can match your energy, intellect, sense of humor, passion for life… you get the picture. Until someone like that comes along, you’ll be just fine.
3. You’re Busy Doing Other Things
That’s not an insult and doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. It’s not the right time, so why push something you’re not 100% about yet? According to PsychCentral, it’s not a good idea to force things. Taking the time to figure out who you are and what you want are great reasons to stay single. Eventually, it’ll all line up, but for now, do you.
4. You Don’t Need a Man to Validate You
Women are single for various reasons, but this should be true for everyone. You might think it’d be nice to have a partner in crime sometimes, but you certainly don’t spend all your time pining after a guy — and you don’t feel bad about it, either. Instead, you live your life and don’t let it revolve around finding someone.
5. You’re Happy and Thriving Solo
You have trips to take, people to meet, projects to tackle, and a goal to go to 30 countries before you turn 30. Your schedule is pretty damn packed. There are a million and one reasons to go after what you want in life, and being single shouldn’t stop you.
6. You’re Focused on Your Career
It may sound like some copout or a cliché, but this is 2024. What woman isn’t focused on her career to some degree? (You might be surprised how many, according to this Huffington Post article). You love what you do, and you’re good at it. That’s worth being proud of, for sure. And if you’re unhappy with where you are in your professional life, you’re busy changing that.
7. You’re Investing in Your Friendships
Once you get a boyfriend, your time with friends is cut in half immediately. Boyfriends are great, but friends are a whole other level of wonderful. They’re one of the best reasons to completely ignore that you’re single and focus on strengthening those relationships.
8. You Aren’t Interested in Commitment Phobes
We live in a culture where hooking up takes precedence over serious relationships. While hooking up is fun, and one-night stands are a blast, it’s hard to find commitment in a sea of men who aren’t into it. In this particular case, your singleness is totally out of your control.
9. Your Confidence Can Be Intimidating
It’s true! Even the cockiest of men will second guess themselves before even daring to approach a woman of your caliber. It takes a guy who’s secure in himself and what he has to offer to get on your level, and those types of guys are rare.
10. You Need to Focus on Yourself First
Before sharing your life with someone else, you need to know who you are, what you want, and what direction you’re headed. It’s not fair to offer only half of yourself to someone when you’re still not completely whole.
11. You Don’t Have Time To Date Right Now
You didn’t have time to eat lunch today or set up an online dating profile. You’re not sure you have time to swipe more than once or twice on Tinder. People often start dating only to claim they’re “too busy” to commit to something real. Recognizing that before you get involved and waste anyone’s time is a very good thing.
12. You’re Enjoying the Single Life
When your life is perfect already, it’s hard to want to bring someone else into the mix. While you may want a boyfriend, there’s the fact that having one will change the life you’ve made for yourself. There’s nothing wrong with change, but you must do it on your own time.
13. You’re Burned Out from Dating Disasters
Dating disasters have a way of draining your energy and making you question why you even bother. From awkward small talk with incompatible matches to ghosting that leaves you second-guessing your worth, the cycle feels like an exhausting emotional rollercoaster with no payoff. Being single, on the other hand, brings peace and control—no need to compromise your time, values, or boundaries. Right now, focusing on yourself feels far more rewarding than chasing connections that only leave you feeling empty.
