10 Things You Swear You Will Never Do When You Get A Boyfriend But Then Do Anyway

When you’re forever single, it’s super easy to tell yourself you’re always going to keep your head on your shoulders when you eventually do find love. After all, your life is totally your own, and you don’t see why that ever has to change. Then you fall for someone… and suddenly, you find yourself doing these things you promised yourself you’d never do:

  1. Cancel on your friends You used to hate girls that ditched their BFFs for their BF. You couldn’t believe that someone wouldn’t think that girl time was super sacred. But now that you’re in love, you can’t help but cancel drinks dates and brunch plans every once in a while. It’s not that you hate your friends — you just really want to hang out with your new guy.
  2. Talk about him 24/7 You don’t mean to keep slipping your boyfriend’s name in every single conversation that you become a part of. It’s just that he’s so relevant to everything. Your best friend is talking about her latest Netflix obsession? Your boyfriend has Netflix, too! Your coworker is considering going to Florida this Christmas? Your boyfriend loves a sports team in Florida!
  3. Take care of him You never wanted to become the kind of girlfriend who took care of her guy when he was sick, who cleaned his apartment, who cooked for him on a regular basis. Oops. Here you are, cleaning his bathroom on a Sunday afternoon. You’re doing this out of love, okay?
  4. Think about him all the time You never wanted your thoughts to be totally consumed by a guy… even by a guy that you really liked. You wanted to keep your distance, at least mentally. But now, he’s taking over your brain every waking moment of your life.
  5. Become part of his family You thought that girls who got involved with their boyfriends’ families were super lame. Weren’t they just sucking up their boyfriend’s mom to make sure that he’d stick around? Now your thoughts have totally changed on the subject, and you’re attending Sunday night family dinners and holidays. And somehow, you love every single moment.
  6. Use “we” Yeah, you’re a “we” girl now. You rarely talk about yourself unless you mention your BF in the same sentence. You can tell that it gets on people’s nerves sometimes, but since you and your partner really do just about everything together, it’s hard not to include him in all your stories.
  7. Set up your friends Most people hate this, and it never really works out the way that you planned. Even though you swore up and down you’d never do this, you just can’t help it — you just really think that your BFF would get along with your boyfriend’s old college roommate.
  8. Give up a hobby or two You never wanted to be the kind of girlfriend without any hobbies or interests. You promised yourself you’d keep doing the things that you love, and while you still do some of them, you’ve definitely missed a yoga class (or ten) to hang out with your boyfriend. The craziest part is that you don’t even regret it.
  9. Dream about getting married Maybe you’ve always wanted to get hitched, or maybe it was always just this abstract idea in the back of your mind. Well, now you’re dreaming about your wedding day all the time. You don’t know how this happened. You didn’t meant to get in this deep. But now you can’t even imagine a future in which he isn’t your husband.
  10. Think everyone should be in love Back in your single girl days, you couldn’t imagine why people thought it was so important to be in a relationship. After all, you weren’t, and you were doing just fine. Now that you’ve found love, you’ve been overcome with the urge to spread that magic and good cheer. You want everyone to be in love and to find the kind of happiness that you have. It’s a little optimistic, perhaps, but having a happy heart will do that to you.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.