14 Signs You’re Not Ready for Mr. Right

Mr. Right could be right around the corner, but what if you’re not ready for him? You might be waiting for the perfect man to sweep you off you’re feet, but if you relate to any of these things, it may not be the right time to be looking for love.

  1. You still want to play games. If you want a real relationship, you’re going to have to ditch the BS — no more making him jealous or testing how much he loves you. You may love drama, but keep it to your TV if you ever want something real.
  2. You’re a flirt. If you can’t focus your attention on one guy, then you’re not ready for the exclusivity of meeting Mr. Right. If you’re single, then have at it, but if you’re the girl who’s still a flirt no matter what your current relationship status reads, then you’re not ready for The One until he can actually be your only.
  3. You keep a guy on the back burner. Keeping a guy waiting will only keep you from giving the relationship your all. If you want a love that’s going to last forever, you have to go all in. Full commitment means giving up your backup plan.
  4. You self-sabotage. Do you push guys away when they get too close? If your self-sabotaging behavior is keeping you from finding love, then you’re probably not ready for the one. You have to get over your fears and leave the self-destruction in your past if you ever want a successful relationship.
  5. You’re in love with the chase. If you ever want to have something serious, you’re going to have to be ready to get real. You’ll have to give up first dates and forget scoping out men at the bar. You have to be ready to commit to one person, settle down, and get comfortable.
  6. You’re waiting for a guy to make you happy. You have to be a whole person by yourself before you can be with someone else. No guy is going to make you completely happy — you have to find joy on your own. Fix yourself first and find love second.
  7. You’re still thinking about Mr. Wrong. The guy that broke your heart was obviously all wrong for you. If you’re dwelling on the past, then your heart isn’t ready for the future. Get over the ex and you’ll finally be ready for who’s next.
  8. Looking for The One is your hobby. Finding the right guy for you shouldn’t be your top priority. Stop looking and spend time on yourself, and before you know it, Mr. Right will fall right into your lap.
  9. You’re not confident in yourself. You don’t need to morph into a similar version of every guy you date just so they’ll like you. You need to be confident that someone will love you for exactly who you are, no changes needed.
  10. You’re afraid of commitment. If you really want your happily ever after, then you’re going to have to get over this irrational fear. A relationship without commitment isn’t a relationship at all. You can take it slow, but Mr. Right has no interest in keeping it casual.
  11. You want to be married, like, now. A rush to the altar isn’t what you need. Don’t aim for a husband — instead, strive for true love. The best things in life can’t be rushed, and once you find the right guy, you’ll realize how much he was worth the wait.
  12. You can’t fess up to your flaws. A woman is always right, or so we’d like to think. But in reality, women make mistakes, too. If you can’t admit and apologize to your partner when you’re wrong, then the relationship will never work. You have to care enough about him to fess up when you’ve messed up.
  13. You don’t know how to compromise. Your way or the highway just isn’t going to work when it comes to a real relationship. Mr. Right should be your equal partner — his opinion matters just as much as yours. If you can’t show him that little bit of respect, then you’ll never find a partnership, only a dictatorship with you as the cruel leader.
  14. You have trust issues. If you build up walls because you’re afraid to let anyone else in, then Mr. Right won’t be able to take space in your heart. Relationships are built on trust, so if true love is what you want, you’ll have to conquer that fear.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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