How To Know If A Girl Likes You (Even If She Says She Doesn’t)

It can be really hard for anyone to admit when they like someone. But listen up, guys — if you get a nagging feeling that this her sour demeanor might actually be hiding the fact that she actually kinda likes you, keep an eye out for these signs. You might be surprised to find out that she’s more into you than she’s willing to admit. Here’s how you know if a girl likes you.

First, a small caveat

While it’s very possible that a girl is into you even if she acts like she’s not, it’s vital that you don’t looks for signs that aren’t there. Friendliness is not always flirting. In fact, it’s usually not. Women are allowed to be kind and pleasant or even to smile at a guy or laugh at his jokes. It doesn’t mean she’s into him romantically. If you to to know if a girl likes you, make sure the signs you’re seeking are blatant. Also, understand that liking you doesn’t mean she has to date you. Be respectful at all times. Never violate her boundaries or force a connection. If you do that, you’ll be in good stead. Now onto the good stuff.

How to know if a girl likes you

1. She’s constantly talking about you.

Here’s something to think about: if someone’s talking about you, you’re occupying their mind in one way or another. If someone really, truly isn’t interested in you, would they really be thinking about you all the time? If a person was repulsed by you, they wouldn’t spend any time talking about you.

2. She teases and taunts you.

Rare though it might be, girls might also “neg” guys the same way guys do girls. If a girl has felt slighted by you, she may turn to taunting you and making fun of you as a way to lick her own wounds. Guys, this shouldn’t take you by surprise — you’re famous for this move! Of course, depending on what “jokes” she’s making, this could also be one of the signs she does not like you, but you’ll have to look for other clues to determine which is the case.

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4. Even though she insists she hates you, she keeps bumping into you and hanging out with your friends.

The more unlikely it is that she’d meet you in these “random” places, the more likely it is that she wants you to notice that she’s there.

5. She blushes around you or blushes when someone says she has a crush on you.

Blushing is one of those things that you can’t hide, no matter what you say. It’s a sign she’s flustered, and it’s also a sign that she’s been caught red-handed. This is one of the easiest way to know that a girl likes you.

6. You keep catching her stealing glances at you.

If she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t constantly be ogling you. Unless you have lobsters crawling out of your ears, you’re probably being scoped out by this girl. Hopefully, she’s not being too creepy about it. That being said, if she regularly avoids your gaze, consider this one of the signs she does not like you and is trying to avoid your attention.

7. You’ve overheard her friends joke about how she likes you.

More often than not, a girl’s friends will see right through the BS. If they’re the type who is blunt about things, then they’ll most likely joke about the fact that she has a crush on you.

8. Her friends have tried to goad you into talking to her.

This is a classic move that’s done by friends when a girl’s too shy to approach you on her own. Usually, when this happens, the girl’s already asked them to play Cupid because she’s too shy to approach you on her own.

9. Your friends keep mentioning that it seems like she might like you, often citing reasons listed here.

Maybe it’s time to listen to your friends? They’ll often have a better grip on reality when it comes to who does and doesn’t like you.

10. She seems like she’s trying to rub her sensuality in your face.

This is an especially big sign if you recently rejected her and it seems like she’s trying to make you jealous. Subtle clues like looking at you while she’s kissing another guy, or even just overplaying her taken status may be an indicator that she’s still a bit salty over it.

11. You can’t help but notice that she stammers a lot around you.

Usually, if a girl who’s normally quick-witted is stammering around you, she likes you. I speak as someone who has a tendency of both stammering and verbal diarrhea when she’s around a guy she likes. This is usually a clear indication that she’s into you. Otherwise, why would she be so lost for words?

12. It’s become a running gag at school or work.

“Those two will get married someday. Just watch.” Sound familiar? If so, you’re dealing with a girl who has an immature way of showing a crush. It’s silly to think that adults still go on like this but they totally do. This might seem like one of the more unconventional signs she likes you since it has more to do with other people than her, but it does mean something.

13. She’s pranked you before.

This is one of those moves that was torn right out of the book of middle school crush moves. Pranking doesn’t always necessarily mean that she likes you, but if it’s a prank that involves some kind of physical contact or a prank that’s cute, it might be a good sign. It’s a way of being playfully flirty without the stakes being too high.

14. She seems frustrated with getting your attention.

Maybe that’s why she “hates” you? Then again, this could also be one of the genuine signs she does not like you and if it is, you’d be making a big mistake by ignoring it. If she really does seem annoyed or even scared by your fawning over her, back off.

15. She says she hates you… but her body language says otherwise.

She’s touching her hair. She’s biting her lip around you. Usually, these are signs that she’s trying to preen, or just thinking of you in a romantic way. You may want to take a cue. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should take it as a green light to come onto her or do anything creepy or perverse. That’s worth noting!

16. There’s serious sexual tension in the air between you two.

This is one of the most obvious signs she likes you even if she claims otherwise. If there’s smoke, there’s probably fire. Maybe, if you’re feeling that tension, you two should consider dating. Wait for a time when you’re on your own together and ask her out. You just might be surprised at the answer you get.

17. She wants to be around you all the time.

If she wasn’t into you, why would she want to be with you nonstop? If you have a lot in common and get on like a house on fire, it makes sense that not only does she want you around, but she also really likes you. Do with that information what you will. If she seems to find any excuse not to hang out with you, however, consider that one of the signs she does not like you.

Just because a woman likes you doesn’t mean you have to do anything about it, especially if you don’t feel the same. However, if she’s someone you’re interested in and you’d like to see how things go, have an open and honest conversation with her about it and you never know, it could just be a new love story in bloom.

What to do when you notice the signs she likes you

1. Show you’re interested in her too but don’t go overboard.

If you’re picking up on the signs she likes you and you’re thrilled because you’re actually pretty into her too, show her that. A little flirting can go a long way in letting her know that you’re feeling it and she’s not alone. Of course, don’t take her interest as a sign to go full steam ahead because you still risk freaking her out or scaring her off. If you notice the signs she does not like you the way you like her, don’t keep pursuing it.

2. Give her some genuine compliments.

Every woman loves to feel good about herself. Whether you’re complimenting her on something appearance-based or something more internal like her intelligence, sense of humor, or an accomplishment at work, you’ll put a smile on her face by complimenting her. She’ll spend the rest of the day feeling like a million bucks.

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4. Follow each other on social media.

Sometimes chatting on social media, sharing memes, and leaving comments on each other’s posts is a more low-pressure way to interact at this stage in the (non-)relationship before you’re ready to take things to another level. It also lets you get to know each other a bit more and see a bit of each other’s lives from a distance before becoming involved properly.

5. Ask her to hang out sometime.

If you’re ready to take things to the next level and the signs she likes you are getting stronger every day, why not go ahead and ask her to hang out? You can simply suggest grabbing a coffee one afternoon or even going to a concert together. Anything relaxed and casual is a great way to get started. You can do the dinner and a movie thing further down the line. However, if the signs she does not like you are pretty clear and she finds an excuse not to go on a date, respect that and take the hint.

6. If you’re not feeling it, don’t lead her on or make it awkward.

If the signs a woman seems to like you are glaring but you really don’t feel the same, the worst thing you can do is flirt back with her or make her think you feel the same when you really don’t. At the same time, don’t come off as arrogant by going out of your way to show that you’re really not into her, especially if she hasn’t even said anything to you. You’ll just look like an idiot in the end, not her.

Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.