Some breakups are absolutely, totally, perfectly warranted. In fact, it’s pretty darn healthy to break up with someone if things legitimately aren’t working out. However, not all breakups are good ones. Some breakups are a major mistake that can send you shooting off in the wrong direction. Not sure if it was a good idea to leave your ex-boyfriend? Here are 15 key signs that you’ve made a big mistake:
Your friends were amazed at how well he treated you. Finding a guy who will treat you like a queen isn’t easy these days, especially with how bad the dating scene is. It’s even rarer to find a guy who gets your friends’ seal of approval. If you break up with him and your friends are asking what the hell is wrong with you, you might be on the wrong track.
Your family really liked him. Assuming that you see your family as good judges of character, this is a key indicator that you probably screwed up. Spouse material is very rare, and having no in-law problems in the future is even rarer.
Things feel really hollow. You wanted space, but now it just seems… empty. Empty isn’t necessarily good.
Your life just got downgraded in every way possible. Assuming it’s not because of a divorce, seeing a major downgrade in all aspects of your life typically means that you’ve messed up. When you’re going to crappier places, living in a worse situation, and also dealing with more flak from everyone, it’s a bad sign. When you notice a string of losses, the universe is telling you that you’re doing something wrong.
No, really, he did treat you well. Disregard this list if your ex was abusive. Seriously, if he abused you, it doesn’t matter what others think. You’re better off alone than with someone who goes out of their way to hurt you. If he took care of you, supported you, and loved you completely but you still walked away, that may have been the wrong decision.
Suddenly, your cash flow seems to abruptly drop. I’ve noticed that when I hang out with the wrong crowd, or when I’m dating the wrong person, my cash flow drops significantly. It becomes harder to keep a job and save money. This is the universe’s way of saying that your entourage is no bueno, and that it will end up curbing your potential.
You think he really was “The One,” but you also felt like you were in a rut. Truth is, relationship ruts happen to even the best of couples. Breaking up with someone you could have seen yourself happily married to for the sake of boredom or feeling a random need to be “single” is a major no-no. Everyone has those feelings when in a relationship, but the fact is that part of a relationship is dealing with them in a healthy way. Breaking up isn’t typically a healthy way.
You never loved anyone more intensely than him, nor has sex ever been better than with him. That passion is rare, people. That’s a sign that you’re dealing with Mr. Right.
To this day, no one has ever really even come close to him in terms of impressiveness. If you had the best but gave it away, it quickly becomes obvious. When everyone else is light years below him, you done screwed up.
Your life hasn’t been better without him. Quality of life is a big part in relationships. If he seriously improved the way you lived life and did everything possible to make you happy, you made a huge mistake.
If you found out he was in the hospital, you’d rush over in a heartbeat. This is the ultimate litmus test. Do you still care about them so much that you’d still go out of your way to help him? Do you still love him that much? If so, you should never have broken up with him. You’re still in love.
Every time you think about him, you smile, then feel a wave of serious sorrow. That’s your heart crying out, wishing that you’d go back to him.
He had a serious impact on you. He taught you to stand up for yourself. He taught you about different kinds of food and some cool street smarts stuff. He taught you to love the real you. You get my drift, right?
Neither of you have found a partner as good since. This may be an indicator that there’s still hope.
He never took you for granted. This is so, so, so rare these days. If you find a guy who really appreciates you in all your flaws, then keep him. They only come by once in a lifetime for most of us.
If you think you shouldn’t have broken up, reach out to him. You only have one life to live. You might as well live it with the ones you love.
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