We all need to kiss a few frogs before we find our prince – or something. Although I don’t believe in the concept of finding “Prince Charming” (I have the feeling all of those Royal state visits and “garter and thistle services” would severely cut into my Netflix binge-watching schedule), I do believe that we can learn a lot from dating the wrong people. Here’s 6 guys that we all need to date at least once.
The Bad Boy.
He’s brooding. Unpredictable. Ridiculously sexy. What’s not to like? Bad boys can show us things and take us on adventures that other guys might not. It’s exciting and it’s thrilling in the moment, but when it comes to emotional stability and commitment, these guys fall short. Eventually you get tired of being in a relationship that feels like you’re on an emotional rollercoaster and you move on to greener pastures. But dating a bad boy brings into focus what you really want: to be treated well by someone who’s actually a good guy.
The Good on Paper Guy.
This guy is the antithesis of the Bad Boy. He’s attentive, responsible, has a great job and, well, looks great on paper. He’s the kind of guy your friends have been praying you’d eventually date. The problem? There just isn’t a spark. Although you hate to admit it, this guy bores you to tears. It’s not that you want to be treated badly, but dating him makes you long for the days of hooking up with losers. This guy teaches you that what you’re really looking for is something in the middle: someone who is kind and stable but also gives you butterflies. Passion with a side of normalcy. Yes, that.
The Sexual Experimentation Guy.
You have almost nothing in common, but that doesn’t matter. You spend entire days and nights in bed. You do things and feel things with him that you’ve never done or felt with anyone else. Sure, he may not be “The One” (even though you may have tried to convince yourself otherwise), but when all is said and done, you’ll still look back on this era of your life fondly. Everyone needs to date someone that they can explore their sexuality with – if only so you know what you like for when you do meet the right person.
The Repeat Offender.
Maybe you dated and then broke up then decided to start sleeping together again, or you’ve always been in that weird “we’re together but not together” grey zone – either way, this is the dude you come back to again and again. You’ve recycled this relationship so many times that even Al Gore would be proud. However, this union is clearly going nowhere. Dating this guy teaches you that just because you can go back to someone, doesn’t mean you should.
The Rebound Guy.
He’s the complete opposite of your ex and that’s why you date him. If your ex was a preppy, golf shirt wearing, Ivy League WASP, this dude is the guy with a green mohawk who plays in a punk band in between working shifts at your local indie coffee shop. Still reeling from your breakup, you quickly get swept off your feet, only to come crashing down a few weeks (or months) later when you realize that this relationship will never work. Everyone needs to experience a rebound relationship in order to recognize these situations for what they are in the future.
The Gateway Guy.
The Gateway Guy will likely break your heart. He’s kind, thoughtful, smart, funny and just the right amount of sexy. In other words, he’s basically everything you’ve been looking for. However, for whatever reason, it just won’t work out between you too. This will make you sad for a while, but it’ll also help put into perspective what you really do want from a relationship. You also realize that Gateway Guy’s dreams of living in the ‘burbs with a white picket fence and a bunch of rugrats doesn’t jive with your life vision of Brooklyn lofts, bottomless brunches and world travel – despite how wonderful you think he is. At the end of the day, Gateway Guy isn’t the guy, but he’s the gateway to better guys – and for that, you’ll always be grateful.
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