Dating Sucks Because Everyone Is So Damn Lazy

Dating has become a chore, a game, something people go into knowing full well they have no intention of following through on. Dating sucks and it’s because people don’t put as much effort into it as they used to. It’s not because they don’t want to, it’s because they don’t have to. Laziness is completely acceptable right now and it’s absolute trash.

  1. No one wants to try anymore. I don’t know what’s going on in the world, but it feels like everyone’s given up on love. Maybe this doesn’t apply to every single person on the planet but of what I’ve observed, people would rather focus on other things than putting their time and effort into forming a stable and committed relationship.
  2. Friends are now more important. I’m not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing. I know boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but friendship is forever blah blah blah. But does that mean making time for your ride or dies should come before making time to hang out with a potential mate? I guess it depends on how you look at it but for me, the answer is NO. You need friends, sure, but you also need a forever person that loves you more deeply than any friend.
  3. Careers are the focal point of life. Once again, this isn’t a straight-up bad thing. It’s great to work on your career but please don’t act like you can’t climb the ladder and also be in a relationship because you can! Any guy who claims “they’re too busy for something serious” but wants to sleep with you is a damn liar. Is he a surgeon? Is he Derek Shepherd? No, he’s not. And if Derek found time for a family, this entry-level Account Executive could definitely date you if he really wanted to.
  4. Dating apps make things way too simple and convenient. I hate online dating apps and it’s because I think they’re way too convenient. It’s no wonder people are so lazy. All anyone has to do nowadays to talk to someone is swipe left and right on a picture and then shoot a quick little message. That’s it. What happened to the good ole’ days when a guy had to physically walk up to a girl he was attracted to, strike up a conversation, and then maybe get some digits? I miss that America.
  5. Netflix and chill is STILL all the rage. “Dating” has been replaced with the term “hanging out.” Instead of actually going on dates, people are now opting to “hang out at home.” Sure, maybe there’s a little dinner (bless up for take-out food) and a movie via HBO Now, but the atmosphere is much different. It’s much more chill, which makes it much less serious.
  6. People refuse to communicate. I blame texting for making people such piss poor communicators. Face to face conversations used to be the only way people communicated and now we have social media conversations, texting convos, etc. Because of all these different modes of “talking,” a lot of what we say to each other gets jumbled—and we’re all too lazy to un-jumble it so we just stop talking to each other.
  7. No one wants to work on themselves. Real talk: we’ve all got issues. Everyone has a story and a background that makes them act the way they do. The problem? We’re all too lazy to work through our issues, so instead of improving ourselves and the way we exist in relationships, we make the same mistakes over and over again and wonder what the hell we’re doing wrong.
  8. There’s too much going on. There’s a lot going on right now. There’s so much to see and do and we have the ability to get everything we want incredibly quickly. With that said, I think having access to all the new-new is why people are too lazy/scared to commit. They don’t want to work super hard for one thing and then find something better, and then have to work super hard again to get the better thing. The struggle is real.
  9. Being single is considered cool. There’s nothing wrong with being single but I don’t think being single should be considered “cool.” Or at least, it shouldn’t be considered any cooler than being in a relationship. I understand wanting to feel good about where you are in your life and you definitely should, but this stigma that being single is better than being linked up needs to die down so people can stop thinking they’re so trendy for not putting themselves out in the dating world.
  10. Laziness is acceptable. Nowadays, all a guy has to do is send a cute text to impress us Uh, what? A text is now considered chivalrous. No, no, no. That won’t do. Texting is the easiest thing a person can do and rewarding someone with our attention after they do the bare minimum is something we’re all guilty of doing. But it’s something we all need to STOP doing so laziness can STOP being considered mainstream.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.