My Flaws Will Only Scare Off The Wrong Guy

My Flaws Will Only Scare Off The Wrong Guy ©iStock/Electra-K-Vasileiadou

I’ll be the first to admit that I’m far from perfect, and in all honesty, I like it that way. I’ve never been into hiding who I am just to keep a guy in my life. I’ve been dumped and treated poorly by guys in the past who have used my flaws against me and it truly sucks. But I’m completely over worrying about that crap because at the end of the day, my flaws will only scare off the wrong guy — the right one will love me for who I am.

  1. I’m always going to be a work in progress — and that’s okay. I’m never going to be perfect, but I’m always going to try to be the best that I can be. I know that there’s always going to be things about me that some people just can’t handle, and it’s okay because the only person who needs to handle me is myself.
  2. My flaws are a beautiful chaos. I don’t beat myself up about my flaws anymore. I have a few neuroses that some guys won’t completely love but that’s what makes me unique. I’m not a cookie cutter woman, I’m not predictable. I have stuff that I’m not proud of and I work on those things as best as I can, but I also have amazing qualities that balance out the rest. If a guy doesn’t see that the good outweighs the flaws, he’s not the guy for me — period.
  3. The right guy will see the good through the bad. Guys these days are so negative when one single flaw comes up. Everyone’s out seeking a perfection that doesn’t really exist, but I truly believe there are still some down-to-earth sane guys out there that don’t live in a social media bubble of made up perfection. I’m a real woman with good and bad things about me. The right guy is going to love every inch of it, so why bother worrying about the guys who don’t?
  4. My flaws only stand out to those I don’t need in my life. If a guy zones in on a single flaw and makes it his dealbreaker, that’s fine by me — I don’t need him in my life. My life has far too much potential for me to dwell on stuff I can’t change. If he’s not willing to accept the flaws, he doesn’t deserve the best parts of me.
  5. One man’s flaw is another man’s treasure. Where one guy will see my flaw as something completely off-putting, another will find an amazing quirk and just one more thing to love. I can be the juiciest peach in the basket, but it doesn’t mean anything to someone who doesn’t like peaches.
  6. I don’t give a damn what people think anymore. I’m done giving a damn and beating myself up when a guy doesn’t like me because of one minor defect. I know who I am and what I’m capable of in this life, and I won’t let one more waste of time guy change my mind. I am who I am, and flaws or not, I’m still fantastic.
  7. The only person I should have to change for is myself. I won’t change who I am because someone tells me to or because some guy broke up with me over something that makes me, well, ME. I don’t treat people like crap. I might have imperfections like anxiety or a far from perfect body, but those are things I seek to improve on my own for my own benefit — not because some guy thinks they make me unworthy of his love.
  8. True perfection is just imperfections that you grow to love. At the end of the day, the guy who’s truly right for me won’t be perfect himself either. The right guy for me isn’t the perfect guy, but instead the perfect blend of imperfections that works for me. Yes, I’m flawed, and no I’m not perfect, but that’s the beauty about me, and no amount of men turning me down should force me to change who I am. The core of who I am is kind and I have the best intentions when it comes to love. The right guy won’t be scared off by my flaws, because to him, they’re just one more thing to love about the amazing person I am overall.