It’s such a myth that guys just want a perfect, supermodel-type woman to date. Ditto for that they want someone who’s going to feed them. It goes much deeper than this, as long as you search for a high-quality man. That’s the key. So, what are men looking for in a relationship? Here’s a rundown of 11 things a quality guy might want in a partner. Read through them before your next hot date.
1. He Wants You To Be Passionate.
I’m not talking about the bedroom, although having hot sex is great. I’m talking about being passionate about yourself and your life. This is sexy to guys. They want to be with someone who has a lust for life and loves themselves, not someone who’s waiting for someone to make their life meaningful or better. He wants to feel like you’re complete within yourself before he walks into your life.
2. He Wants An Anti-Clone Partner.
A quality guy doesn’t want to date someone who’s exactly like him. Boring! He doesn’t want to feel like you’re trying to impress him by saying “yes” to everything and letting him lead the relationship. Instead, he wants someone who’s got their own thing going and is unique – that’s what’s most interesting to him.
3. He Wants You To Have A Life.
When you meet a great guy, don’t fall into the trap of thinking you should drop everything in your life to be with him. That’s going to backfire by turning him off. If he’s truly great, he’s going to want you to have your own life, with your friends, family, career, and goals. He’s not going to make insecure demands for your time because he values who you are and what’s important to you.
4. He Wants Your Support.
You want someone to support you no matter what, and so does the guy you’re dating. This doesn’t mean you should be smothering him, but it does mean you should be there to cheer him on and allow him to share about his life. Look, it doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or woman, you want to be with someone who’s your number-one cheerleader.
5. He Wants You To Make An Effort With His Mother.
When he invites you into his life, he’s going to want you to get along with his family and friends. This doesn’t mean you should have to force connections with his loved ones, but he wants to be with someone who isn’t going to bring drama to his life. He loves his life and values the people who are already in it, so he’ll be holding thumbs for a partner who respects that.
6. He Wants Consistency.
He wants to know what he’s getting when he starts dating you. He doesn’t want to be tiptoeing on eggshells, wondering if you’re going to play dating games or go AWOL for a few days, leaving him to wonder what you really feel about him. He wants to know that you’re consistent with him because it builds trust.
7. He Wants A Confident Partner.
It’s really not about your looks, ladies. It’s about your confidence. A guy will be more attracted to the way you carry yourself and your amazing self-confidence, much more than your bra size or swishy hair. Seriously. Confidence can make or break your appeal. You can be the hottest woman in the room but if you lack confidence, you’ll reduce your level of attractiveness.
8. He Wants Someone Fun And Playful.
Although maturity and mental connection is important for relationship longevity, a guy doesn’t want a woman who takes herself too seriously. He wants someone who can laugh at herself and be playful sometimes. He wants someone who’ll jump into the ocean with him, even though she’s just done her hair. He wants someone who’ll sing karaoke even though her voice is terrible.
9. He Wants Someone Who Doesn’t Nitpick.
You shouldn’t hold yourself back from speaking up if your partner’s upsetting you. But, a guy doesn’t want a partner who’s going to be nitpicking at him all the time or pinpointing all his little faults and flaws. No one wants to feel like they’re in a relationship with someone who just wants to be critical 24-7, after all.
10. He Wants Emotional Stability.
While some guys can waste your time by not being able to deal with emotions, a quality guy can be vulnerable around you but he’ll also want someone with emotional stability. He doesn’t want you to be legit crazy, you know? He doesn’t want to come home to someone who’s trashed the house or stalks him at work. Emotional regulation is hot.
11. He Wants Someone Who’s Open About Her Feelings.
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The minute you play games and hide your real feelings, a high-quality guy will be turned off. He wants to be with someone who’s clear about her intentions and won’t try to make him jealous or force him to chase her down until he’s panting and exhausted. If he’s ready to commit, he’s not going to waste his time with someone who’s emotionally running away.
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