Forget Guys—My Summer Is All About Being Single And Loving It

I used to amp up my dating game as the warmer weather approached in the hope of finding a summer fling to entertain me during the long, hot days until autumn—but not anymore. This summer, I’m not worried about guys or dating—I’m going to live only for myself because being single is way too much fun.

  1. It’s the best season to be single. The summer is the most social time of the year, and with that comes the chance to meet a lot of different and interesting people. Everyone is out and about in the summertime. It’s just the way it is. People come out of hibernation to soak up all that Vitamin D and that’s what makes summer the best time to meet new, fun and exciting people. They don’t have to be lasting friendships or anything but if I’m too focused on one guy, I won’t be meeting anyone new at all.
  2. I’m in no rush to settle down. Most of my friends may be settling into marriage and kids but I’m not ready for all that—and that’s why I’ll be single all summer long, and probably even for awhile after that. Unless a guy so perfect comes along that I can’t stay away from him, there’s no chance I’ll be coupled up over the next few months.
  3. I want to do what I want when I want to do it. The best time for going out and having a blast is the summertime. The days are longer, people are more excited to be out enjoying the sunshine, and no matter where you are, there are festivals galore. I don’t want to have to plan my weekends around whether or not the guy I’m seeing is available. It’s not something I’d normally do anyway, but when starting to date someone, there are certain rules you have to adhere to if you want to make it work. I don’t want to make anything work right now.
  4. I’m making more time for friends and family than anyone else. After I take care of all my work, the rest of my free time is going to be spent with friends and family. I already have so many fun things lined up this summer that I really can’t think of any type of guy that could be able to top any of the things I have planned. I’m spending this summer doing new and exciting things with people I already love and that’s the way I like it.
  5. Dating is less real in the summer time. In my opinion, the summer fling is a thing for a reason. That reason is because it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the sunshine and summer nights filled with romantic bonfires at the beach. Still, when the sun goes down and the sweaters come on, tons of people who coupled up during the summer realize they have absolutely nothing in common at all. I won’t be one of those people.
  6. The summer is a great time to continue getting to know myself. Because of the nice weather, I can be outside more often finding new and cool things to do. I could very well end up finding a new passion or hobby since I’m not distracted by guys, and when I do that, I get to know a little bit more about myself in the process.
  7. Summer vibes are so chill. I’m not going to let some serious emotions come in and kill that. With dating comes obsessing over things like whether or not it’s going to be a long lasting thing or when to have the “what are we?” chat that’s awkward AF. I don’t want to deal with any stress during my single, carefree summer, and rolling solo is the way to ensure that.
  8. Solo adventures are just more fun. The beauty about it being summer and me being single is the fact that I can go on so many adventures. If I’m not coupled up, I don’t have to worry about whether my guy wants to do the same things as me, or even if he’s having fun while we’re there. I can go on random hikes in the middle of nowhere alone and have a great, relaxing time all by my damn self.
  9. Just because it’s nice out doesn’t mean I’m going to change who I am. Personally, I don’t really see the appeal of most relationships. More than half of the people I know who are coupled up are settling for less than ideal partners. The sun may be shining and the weather may be beautiful but I’m not going to shack up with some rando because of it. I’m kicking ass all on my own and I won’t change that because it’s hot out.
  10. Besides, it’s too hot for cute couple things. The idea of holding hands with someone in 100 degree weather or trying to cuddle comfortably when we’re both hot AF and super sweaty (and not in a sexy way) is kind of a nightmare to me. I don’t want to touch or be touched when it’s that damn hot out. If I’m single while the weather’s warm, I can sprawl out in my bed without having to graze a sticky man arm or leg.
Angelica Bottaro is a freelance writer and aspiring novelist based out of Toronto. She is an avid reader and music lover and enjoys getting lost in the written word and meaningful melodies.