It’s been days, weeks, or perhaps even months, and the only action you’ve had down there is your annual check-up with your gynecologist. Going through a dry spell can be rough—I mean, a woman has needs!—but whether you’re single and sex isn’t looking likely anytime soon or you’re in a relationship but your partner’s MIA, there are some good things about not having sex for a while.
- You give your body a rest. Sure, sex is good exercise when you’re burning more calories than a 20-minute sesh at the gym, but what about those rather unhealthy habits that you sometimes pick up without meaning to? I’m talking about Urinary Tract Infections, STIs, and all that other nasty stuff. When you don’t have sex, you’re eliminating the risk of catching something you’d rather not catch. Plus, constant sex tires the body. Sometimes it’s good to give your body a complete break so it can heal, relax, and recharge itself.
- You don’t have to shave. One of my personal favorite things about knowing I’m not getting any anytime soon? I’m not required to groom myself. I can let myself turn into a hairy gorilla and no one’s none the wiser. It’s particularly great on those nights that you just can’t be bothered because there’s no one else to impress but yourself.
- Unexpected pregnancies are literally impossible. When you’re not having sex, there’s absolutely no way you could be preggers. Gone are the days where you used to panic every time your period was only a day late because there’s more chance of Kanye West becoming president in the next presidential election than there is of you finding yourself with-child.
- Sex doesn’t dominate as much of your thought process. You’re not getting it on the regular so naturally, you’re not thinking about it as much. In fact, you’ll probably reach a point (if you haven’t already) where you’re barely thinking about it at all, and doesn’t it make for a lovely change? You now have more time to think about other things like the sound of a bird, the color of the sky, or something a little more substantial.
- YOU DON’T WANT IT AS MUCH. Due to the fact that you’re not thinking about the good lovin’ as much (or even at all), you’ll undoubtedly come to the realization sooner or later that you don’t want it as much. In fact, you might find yourself not missing it at all, not even a little bit. To be honest, it seems like so much time, energy and effort and you’d rather put your focus elsewhere.
- YOU HAVE MORE TIME FOR OTHER ACTIVITIES… Because of this, you find yourself appreciating the little things in life just that smidgen more, like, for instance, having a night in to yourself with Netflix, a hot drink, and a snuggly blanket. Nights like this become the norm and they feel heavenly. In fact, you can’t imagine having to give it all up just for a man. Yawn.
- YOU CAN FOCUS ON MAKING YOURSELF HAPPY. Instead of spending so much time out of your busy weekly schedule having to satisfy someone else’s needs, life is now so much easier and simpler when all you have to do is take good care of yourself. Besides, who needs a man when you can make yourself happy?
- YOU BECOME EMOTIONALLY CLOSER TO YOUR ROMANTIC PROSPECT OR PARTNER. If you’re seeing someone or you’re with someone, taking sex out of the equation can be quite the revelation. When you do this, it means you open up the gateway of truly getting to know someone without letting all that physical stuff overcomplicate things or take over. How you feel towards your partner on a daily basis relies solely on top-notch communication, which will ultimately strengthen the relationship you have with them. It’s like falling in love when you’re young and you’ve never had sex all over again. Speaking of…
- YOU FEEL LIKE A VIRGIN AGAIN. When you haven’t had any in a while, the idea of sex makes you feel all giddy and excited again, just like you were before you had your first time. A lot of people in long-term relationships get used to having sex on tap and take it for granted, but when you haven’t had it for a long time, it feels all new and thrilling again. It just makes you appreciate it so much more when you do eventually have it again.
- THE NEXT TIME YOU HAVE SEX FEELS AMAZING. No doubt it will feel more intense for both partners. Plus, all that sexual angst and buildup means that the next time won’t just be good, it’ll be absolutely amazing and worth the damn wait!