If Your Guy Doesn’t Do These 10 Things, Move On

When you really, really like (or even love) someone, it can be hard to see when they’re just not right for you. If you’re starting to feel like something’s missing in your relationship, ask yourself if your partner does these things for you. If not, you’ll be a lot better off finding someone who does.

  1. He tells you he loves you. Love can be shown in so many different ways, but unless he doesn’t say it, what’s the point? Words matter too, and hearing that level of affection from a man is one of the most beautiful things in the world, especially when he actually means it. If he can’t say it out loud, then neither should you.
  2. He naturally compliments you. When a man can’t resist you, he’ll compliment you on the daily. The smell of your hair, the way you laugh, the way you make a toasted bagel with cream cheese just the right way — he just can’t help but be appreciative and loving. You shouldn’t have to fish for compliments from him; he should already be giving you as many as you can handle.
  3. He stares at you when you laugh. Guys are visual human beings, which means that when they like what they see, it’s hard to look away. When a guy is in love, his favorite sight is to see his partner happy. He can’t help but stare at her when she laughs or smiles because it makes him happy, too. If he can’t stop looking at you, then you know he’s in deep.
  4. He surprises you. Surprises just go to show how much the little things matter. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant — it can be as simple as a kind note or a piece of your favorite candy on your pillow. Surprises keep things interesting, and a guy who loves you will always find a way to do so. It’s one of the kindest gestures because it shows you he isn’t afraid to put himself out there.
  5. He listens to your concerns. Genuinely listening to whatever concerns you is a huge part of being a reliable partner. A guy who loves you should be there as soon as you need him, regardless of what the problem is. If it’s important to you, then it will be important to him. If he has a hard time listening and understanding, he’s just not worth it.
  6. He genuinely cares about your well-being. Genuine concern is a trait that only a man who truly loves his partner will portray. Your health and happiness will be a top priority of his, and he’ll always strive to make your better than it is. If he has a hard time showing that he cares, it’s probably because he doesn’t.
  7. He puts you first. This is not selfish whatsoever. A man will put his partner first when it matters. If you’ve had a terrible day and need someone to talk to, if you need a night out, if you need some medicine and can’t get to the store yourself, a guy who really loves you will go out of his way to make sure you have what you need, just as you’d do for him.
  8. He’s honest when you confront him. Calling him out shouldn’t be a reason for him to lie and make things seem to be different than what they are. A real man who loves you will be honest and own up to what he’s guilty of doing. You shouldn’t have to wonder or worry if he’s telling the truth — you should be able to trust that he has your back.
  9. He fixes whatever he’s broken. Regardless of what he does to hurt your feelings — and he will at some point because he’s only human — he will find a way to make it better. Hurting should be the last thing he wants to do, and it should cause him enough pain to make it up in the best way he can.
  10. He acts like a man, not a boy. It’s self explanatory that if you have trouble deciding if he’s actually a man because he acts more like a boy, that you should get out of there. You don’t have time to be wasting your time with someone who has the maturity of a teenager. A man will always show you what love is.
Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia