Things were going super well and you were pretty sure you were headed towards a serious relationship… but now suddenly, he’s not all that into it (or you). WTF? Guys don’t suddenly change overnight, so if yours has suddenly gone cold out of the blue, it’s probably been building for a long time. Here’s what may be behind it:
He’s been unsure for a while now.
It might seem like he was really into you, but deep down he wasn’t really sure if you’d be a great match. He was probably trying to be positive, thinking his feelings would eventually work themselves out. They did, just not in your favor.
Something happened to make him bolt.
Before you think that you did something wrong to put him off, understand that you can never put off a guy who’s really into you. Then, remember that the thing that made him change his mind could be something really small that you can’t control. It’s all going on within him and it’s not your problem to deal with.
He didn’t actually want anything serious.
He seemed to want something serious, but the truth is that he actually didn’t, so he freaked and pulled the plug when things got a little too real. It may have started out innocently enough and he may have actually thought he did want something serious, but it’s pretty clear he didn’t.
He was playing you all this time.
If he’s been dating other women, that can be why he has gone AWOL on you. If he’s that much of a loser, you’re better off without him and you’re lucky you found out now, before things went any further.
Your vibe sort of changed.
It’s easy to feel carefree and fun in the early dating stages, but then after a while, you can’t help but get a bit more serious because you want to know where you stand. There’s nothing wrong with this, but it can make guys feel that you’re getting too heavy. Again, it’s because they’re cowards or commitment-phobes. A guy who’s really into you will want to give you clarity and security.
He could see you wouldn’t fall for his crap.
A guy who’s emotionally unstable, a drama king, or a player will try to get with women who are blind to his negative traits and who will accept getting dumped with all his baggage. He saw that you’re above all that crap, so he didn’t want to waste his time.
He couldn’t meet your expectations.
His pride prevented him from saying that he can’t be the type of boyfriend you want or need, so he’s backing out instead. Honestly, that’s the best scenario. You don’t want him to stick with you and then disappoint you later when he shows his true colors.
He only wanted sex.
This is the classic move. A guy shows mad interest in you and then after getting sex, he bolts. He was really only looking for one thing and decided that he didn’t need to stick around after getting it.
He was just after the chase.
Some guys hit you hard with their efforts to pursue you, but then once they get you, they feel it’s a big anti-climax. This is Mr. Chase. He’s super charming and into you, but then once you enter into a relationship with him he starts to appear disinterested. He’s already looking for the next big chase and excitement.
He was still on Tinder.
If you went on a few dates after meeting on a dating app like Tinder and then the guy bolted from your life, it’s possible that he was still on the app and met someone else. He might be the kind of guy who keeps his options open and gets swayed by other potential GFs. He’s always thinking there’s something better out there, but honestly, this type of guy ends up alone.
He still has feelings for his ex.
You might have missed the signs, but they were probably there. If he got with you shortly after his traumatic breakup with his ex or he was often mentioning her (red flag: he got emotional talking about her on your first date), he might have decided to go back to her for another shot, leaving any chance with you unfulfilled.
He was only interested in himself.
A guy can lose interest in a woman he’s dating if he was never really interested in her to begin with. If he was always talking about himself and not really focusing on you, he’s clearly the type of guy who wants all the attention, and then when he’s had his fix he’ll move on to another woman who will hopefully give him attention all over again. What BS. The good news is that it’s not about you at all.
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