It’s been a while since I was in love, and while my single life is pretty awesome, it would be cool to feel that way again. Here’s what I wish I could say to the guy who loves me next:
- I’ve waited for you for so long. Not in a creepy way — in a totally normal single girl way. I’ve said no to second dates and left almost relationships because I wanted the real deal. I’ve waited long enough for you to come around, so you can bet that I’m going to appreciate you and I’ll never take you for granted.
- I’m ready for a big love. I’m not bitter, even though I totally could be after everything I’ve been through. I’m ready to actually love you and have you feel the exact same way about me. I’m not going to freak out. I’m not going to slow things down or claim I need a million hours of me time every week. I’m ready to embark on something real and long-lasting.
- I’m not looking for “almost there.” If I wanted an almost love story, I would have stayed in a whole bunch before you. I’m looking for something totally and completely real, and I want a love that will last longer than you wondering who else you can match with on Tinder. If you’re not ready to go all-in, it’ll never work, so please be sure.
- I expect a lot. I’m not crazy picky and I’m not asking for the sky here. I’m just asking for you to live up to my expectations, which I think are pretty reasonable. Don’t say you’re going to do something and then not do it. Don’t cancel on me. Don’t put your friends and family before me, and definitely don’t claim your job is more important than our relationship.
- I prefer the simple things in life and I want to share them with you. Sure, I consider myself smart and I’m curious about other people and the surrounding world, but my lifestyle is pretty simple and chill. I’d rather go to a pub or cook dinner at home than a fancy restaurant, and binge-watching a new show sounds like the perfect evening to me.
- My job is everything to me. I’m not going to be a horrible girlfriend because I have a career that I love and that fills my days with joy, so you don’t have to worry about it. I’ll still be there for you and be the partner that you need me to be. You should just probably know that I’m not going to stop putting everything I have into my career, no matter how serious things get between us.
- You need your own life. Just because I’m going to love you doesn’t mean that I’m going to stop seeing my BFFs and family and going to yoga and barre classes, so you definitely need your own life too. We can definitely join our two worlds together without losing who we are or what we love. In fact, doing that will make our relationship even stronger.
- I’m not your ex-girlfriends, so please don’t treat me like I am. So many guys seem to have an idea of what women are like based on ones they’ve dated in the past, but I’m not any of your exes — I’m an entirely different person. I won’t whine that you’re not spending enough time with me or make you give up your nerdy hobbies. You had an entire life before me and I’ll totally respect that. Please respect that I’m a whole new woman and give me a clean slate.
- I won’t be afraid to call you out if you start slacking. If you say you’re coming to my birthday or a family event and you never show, that’s not going to fly. If you lie to me, cheat on me or generally start taking me for granted, I won’t hesitate to call you out. I may love you, but I won’t let you treat me like crap.
- I want to need you. I want to want you, of course, because there’s not much point loving someone that you’re not actually attracted to. But I also want to need you. I’ve been single for so long that I can’t give that up for just anyone. I have to feel a certain way, and to me, that would be absolutely needing you in my life. It has to make perfect sense that you’re around, like there’s no way you couldn’t be. That’s how I’ll know we’re the real deal.
