Guys, If You Want To Keep Us, Don’t Stop Putting In Effort Once You Have Us

Why is it that guys seem to put in loads of effort at the beginning of a relationship but when you’ve been together for a little while and the honeymoon period ends, they become super complacent? Guys, here’s a little tip for you: always treat us like you’re trying to win us over even after you already have.

You should never get too comfortable

Life is unpredictable—you never know what’s going to happen. I’m not saying that we’re going to go out and cheat on you with our hot new colleague Dan, but you shouldn’t just assume that you’re safe and you’ve got us for life. The truth is that you should always appreciate the time you have with us and you shouldn’t take us for granted in any way. Otherwise, you never know when you might lose us.

Making an effort is everything.

You might not realize it, but your efforts with us never go unnoticed. Whether the relationship is six months or several years in, we always acknowledge and appreciate it when you’re being sweet, thoughtful, and trying hard to please us. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.

Dote on us—everyone loves to feel special. 

In the beginning, you probably did everything and anything you could to woo us and make us feel like the most special ladies on the planet. We understand that it’s impossible to keep this up all the time, but at least some of the time would be great. Even if it’s just calling us to say hello or tagging us in a meme that you know we’ll find funny on Facebook, show us that you’re thinking of us and dote on us and we’ll love you forever.

Romance shouldn’t have an expiration date. 

Contrary to popular belief, we like it when you’re being super romantic with us. Granted, some girls aren’t into the whole flowers and chocolates thing because they find it corny, but most of us like a bit of the cheesy stuff. Keep that in mind and you’ll make us as happy as a mouse in a pool of cheese.

Dressing up for us sometimes shows you give a crap. 

Don’t just show up for dates in jeans and a t-shirt because you don’t understand why you should dress up. I mean, you were only with us a couple of hours ago and we love you the way you are, right? Well, kinda. It’s true that we love you the way that you are, but we also like it when you make an effort with your appearance, especially when we’re going out for date nights. We like to be dressed up for because it makes us feel good. It makes us feel like you still care about impressing us.

Being a gentleman is an identity, not an act.  

Just like we love it when you dress up for us, we also love it when you’re acting like a true gentleman with us. Even if you’ve been with your girlfriend or spouse for many years, you should always pull out our chair or open the door for us. Manners cost nothing and yet they mean so much to us.

We deserve to be treated to real date nights sometimes. 

Sure, we’re strong and independent and can afford to buy our own dinners and treats, but that’s not the point. It’s nice to feel like we’re being spoiled by our number one guy. Even if this is just the odd dinner or buying us our favorite flowers from time to time, it all makes us feel special and it’s important to keep that romance alive. We’ll be happy to return the gesture sometimes too.

Keeping things fresh in the bedroom is important. 

As well as making effort outside of the bedroom, make effort inside the bedroom too. Don’t let sex with us become too vanilla or keep advocating the same two positions. Surprise us. Take the time and effort to please us. We’ll always be happy to do the same for you too because it’s important to keep the passion alive.

You’re incredibly lucky to have us

Finally, always be grateful for us, not because we’re amazing (which we are) but because you’ve managed to find a great love with someone who adores you just as much as you adore us. That’s pretty freakin’ incredible. We promise never to take you for granted either.

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